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writes: I'm feeling neglected by my man, we both lead busy lives, I'm an accountant, and he is an auditor. We hardly have time to see eachother, he's been busier lately, with work pressure, but Lately he hasn't been paying any attention to me, and I want to support him, but he doesnt show any affection he does not answer my emails and my phone calls, before he'd always send me something during the day, and I'd always send him something to make him smile through his tough day, and he'd reply we'd always sign our messages to eachother with "I love you", now I find that I'm the only one doing that, whether I'm busy or not. It does not take long to write those 3words, and 8letters.Is he trying to say something? When I ask why he no longer says that or writes it, he says there's no time, and that I panic when i don't write somthing the way that I'd expect, perhaps it's a girl thing, but I love hearing it, and if I'm being naive or not, I feel assured, and secure when he says it.He is busy, but i feel like im being shut out, and neglected.He doesn't call, when I want to call him, hes out with friends, but for me its too much to ask. and I holding on to something that no longer exists or am I making things too personal. i've been going through a tough time lately, and I want his support, and care, but I'm not getting that, especially when i need his support. Many thanks for reading. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2006): i agree. you should find out what's going on with him. it doesn't take much time or effort to text 3 words. i have a similar problem with my OH neglecting me even though we live together! you don't want hings to go so far you feel trapped with someone who takes you for granted.so let him know how you feel. if you don't sort things out then you should find someone else who will give you the attention you deserve
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reader, lostgirl04  +, writes (10 February 2006):
 Hi, sorry your going through this. Honestly, I think you deserve better. If you find the time to write him emails and call him then he should find time to do the same. It seems like he's distancing himself, and when guys do that it's usually a sign that they want to slow things down or end them. I think you should talk 2 him and tell him exactly how you feel. Tell him you feel neglected and that he should do something about it. If he doesn't, then let him go. I know it's hard to end a relationship but it's better to be single than to be with someone who doesn't appreciate what he has by his side. Hope this helps. Good Luck
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