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writes:Shy guys are very confusing and frustrating. This guy at my work is around 26. He is so so shy his dad tries to set him up on dates and from what I have found out he only has had one girlfriend. One of my friends at work told him that I thought he was cute and he said it would be too weird since we work together.I always have to be the one to go to his office to talk but once I initiate he is so chatty. I have to initiate text messages too..but he always responds.we went to the river together and it was the best time! but he wouldnt even hold onto me when we were riding a jetski or sit next to me when we were eating lunch. He would just sit next to me. he gave me a huge huge and told me we would have to do it again.but i have always been told...if a guy like you, he will make it happen. Do i need to back off? I don't know what to do anymore or if he even likes me or just if he just trying to be polite.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): Thanks so much for all your advice!
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (8 July 2009):
 He is shy. So if you want something to happen, you are going to have to be the one to make it happen.
Girls can hug too you know. You too have the power to slide closer and make physical contact.
If you like him and can accept that he is like this, then make it happen. Oh and welcome to the other side. Usually it is guys who have to do all the work.
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reader, quarky  +, writes (7 July 2009):
 I think he clearly likes you but wants to be sure that he's picking up your signals right.
I think you should make the first tentative move-maybe hold his hand next time you're out, look into his eyes and hold it there-some guys are painfully shy and don't know how or when to make a move-if he likes you, and you like him-try making a small move of your own see what happens!
failing that, (cos some guys just won't get the hint) tell him you like him, move in, and take your chances!
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (7 July 2009):
did you say he gave you a huge hug and said you would have to do it again? if so (especially the hug part) then i would say thats more then being a polite! a person being polite would of just say i had a good time, and left it at that, and they would not of given you false hope by leading you on to think you would do it again.
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reader, Jess1ca_1988 +, writes (7 July 2009):
well u have obviously let him know u wanted to be friends, but have u let him know u wanted more? and maybe since yall work together he is worried about u trying to "kiss and tell" so maybe u should ask him if he wants to go out sometime and make it real obvious that u want to date him or whatever u wanna do. Some guys like a girl that will take initiative and start things
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