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writes: hi all, i posted a question on the 13th sex while i sleep. it is a long story and there is much more to it than that, but i tried again to end the relationship i was focused and 100% sure i was doing the right thing, but he asked me for sex one last time so he had a good memory to take with him ??? i said no of course but he kept on, he said if i did he would walk away and leave me to get on with my life but if i didnt then i was leaving the chance open for it to happen in the future, he then said ok il come and take it by force, i know he wouldnt but he picked me up and tried to get me upstairs, he did. then took my trousers down i pulled them up i had enough and cried he said what made you cry like that. i came downstairs and he had a w*** on my bed. i want him out of my life.this is my house and he was in it, my best friend came to the door and he said get rid of whoever it is, AND I DID,i seriously need some help with this one thanx. does anyone know any helpline numbers because the doctors are useless and all il get is an hour a week with some counsellor after a 3 mth wait thanx xxx im sorry to keep moaning to you about this.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (26 May 2009):
 You already got great answers. Now stand up for yourself and do it. Get him out of your life.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (26 May 2009):
He knows how to manipulate you clearly.
So get some friends round and then tell him while they are in the room. He will know he cannot get away with anything with witnesses.
You can help him pack his stuff with your friends there the WHOLE time and then kick him out and ring a nice man from the yellow pages to come and chnge the locks and fit a big bolt to the door.
In fact have the locksmith there while he is there so he has someone else to watch him leave and knows he can't get back in.
Get a restraining order from the court if he keeps trying to come back.
Have someone to stay with you for a while after because he knows he just needs to get you alone and then he can control you again.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (26 May 2009):
 Call the police and report his attempted sexual assault - if he is that persistent with you, other women maybe at risk too. Honestly, you have made the right decision in ending the relationship as he doesn't sound a very nice person. Make it clear the relationship is over by repeating the message. Tell your friend what is happening so that someone outside the relationship is aware. Use google to find your local women's aid or rape crisis helpline and call them for support. It is your home and you have every right to live there in peace. I suggest you write him a letter stating that you want him out of your home. If he doesn't leave, change the locks (having made contact with the police first). Remove any of his possessions from the home and put them into storage when he can obtain them. Never let him in again and put a chain on the door to prevent forced entry. If he makes a pest of himself, call the police and report this as domestic violence/ stalking by a former partner. They should attend your home and that alone may scare him away for good.
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