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writes:MOD NOTE: Two questions from same asker, combined. Firstly let me say that this is kind of my last hope of getting some actual real advice. I have been with this guy for a year now actually a year since yesterday. Lately he's been really distant, he doesn't text me much, we have two classes together and he doesn't even barely talk to me, and we don't talk at all anymore yet we are still in a relationship. He still says I am his girlfriend and everything but he doesn't really talk to me at all. Like I don't get this. I need to know what this is meaning? And also he forgot our anniversary like, he didn't text me or anything. Like I just don't know what to do anymore, I really just need your help please. Im so confused...????Hi, I am 16 years old and I believe I am ready to have sex. Is that bad? I mean it's not like I just want it with just anybody though I want to lose it to someone I really love and care about, which I don't have anyone right now but still I just wanna know if that's like normal and all that I want to do that? Because I just have really never thought about sex till just recently, and I think I am ready. What do y'all think about this? I just really need some advice. Because I really can't go to my grandma about it because she'll give me some speech about sex before marriage and everything and like none of my friends are still virgins they all lost there's last year or the year before that or even in middle school. And honestly this is like a new generation kids do the wildest things, I just feel like I am emotionally, mentally, and physically ready to have sex. Also is that bad?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (31 March 2014):
 While you may be physically ready to have sex, you are not emotionally ready.
As far as the "bf" goes... sorry if you two don't talk then he's not a bf... he can SAY you are in a relationship with him all he wants but unless he acts like you are, then you are not.
I would break up with the pretend boyfriend... and I would wait till you find someone new (later on) and are seriously involved with him before having sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2014): Bf issue, i strongly advice you to change bf. His words does not support his action. Seriously his not into u. A guy who really cares about you, will pursue to be with you. Nothing can make him stop calling you, asking you out, anything to be with you. If his not taking care of you or your relationship, he aint worth it. Leave it, let go. Its so unfair for you to care much for him n he dont feel the same way you do.As for sex issues, if you think your ready, thats great. Go for it. But make sure you make love with someone really special, someone your in love with an someone who loves you back the way you do. There's nothing more magical, than making love with someone you know who love you the same way you do for them, respect you and who will stay even after sex. Most of all, practice safe sex, you dont want to get pregnant. Your young, wild and free, enjoy life and make the most out of it. But be wise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2014): I think you're probably physically ready for sex and your hormones are telling you you're mentally and emotionally ready.
How have you not got anyone you care about to have sex with if you have a boyfriend of a year?
By the way, I don't think you should have sex with anyone until you're 18, but use protection if you do.
As for the boyfriend, you're not a couple anymore and haven't been since this started happening. It's like he's getting to claim he is in a relationship but doesn't want to put any effort in. I think you should break up with him.
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