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*haddles
writes:Hey guys and ladies. It's been too long since I've been here. I think I was either in Primary school or just between. Now I'm in Highschool and in year 11. I am not as self conscious as I once was, and am now pretty out there. But there is one problem. There is this one girl I like and I really have no clue how to ask her out.I tried hanging around her, my bestfriend's girlfriend (Who's also bestfriends with me too) and another friend (girl) to try and lure her away and pop the relationship starter. But I never did. I explained to my BFF's GF, I'll call her Milly to save time, that my body and one part of my noodle was yelling out; 'ASK HER OUT! DO IT!' while the other half took over and took over the situation by saying; 'Chill. You'll neve have a chance. You'll never do it.' So my mind was playing mind games and it was annoyingAs the day wore on, I felt the need to ask her out grow more and more. She knows I like her, and she's okay with it. But we never talk about it in person. She also is in a play that is in a local theatre and I feel that if she goes out with me, I'll be a useless person, clinging to her. Any way, at the end of the day, she was talking to a teacher. We had exams and we stuck at school for 'study'. They were joking around when the girl I like, I'll call her Amily (unique, right?), said something like; 'No one ever loves me.' jokingly. Milly then said; 'Youve got Chad. (That's me, if you can't tell by my display name).' I got a little bit excited for her answer. It was quickly gone when she said something along the lines of a no answer. I don't know if she was joking or not, but I was pretty saddened by it.So, Cupids and Aunts. Can you please help this pathetic soul find a way to conquer his fears and ask her out, while feeling like the relationship will last? And how do I know if she'll accept my lifestyle: Games, technology, bass music and Nerf guns. Yes. 16 and playing with Nerf. How will I know if she will not see me as pathetic?If this gets published and answered, I'll be over the moon. Cheers people. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 May 2011):
 I actually think that sometimes it is easier if she is a friend. At least when she is a friend you know that you both enjoy each others company and it is a good basis for a relationship. So just keep confident and good luck. I hope it works out for you.
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reader, Chaddles +, writes (29 May 2011):
Chaddles is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAh, very true. I have been told exactly that in the past. If she's neutral about it, I could convince her to slightly like it, so it won't be as Abadan.The reason why I like her is not only is she unique, she is a friend of mine and hangs in our group. And I know that trying to go out with a friend makes it difficult, but I could still try those pieces of advice. Cheers. I'll try some on her when I get a chance next.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (28 May 2011):
I guess there is no way of knowing if she will think of you as a nerd or not. You are in to these hobbies and that is who you are, therefore if she doesnt accept this well then believe me she is not the girl for you and you need to accept that. Dont ever change who you are for any girl.
Ok well I guess you just need to start things slowely and get to know her, ask her about herself and find out her likes and dislikes, the more you talk to her and get to know her the more comfortable you will be around her. Keep things casual and ask her would she maybe like to see a movie with you or so on so forth. Find something you have both in common and ask her would she like to do whatever it is. Take things slow and see what happens. Good Luck.
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