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writes:I need some help and this is my last resort. I'm 14 years old, and well things have been building up in my head for a long time and now its starting to come out. My whole life people have made me feel like scum people who clamied to be my friend have made me feel like im not good enough. Because of this i have developed alot of problems. I beleive i have a minor case of body dismorphia, i have anxicity problems and most defintly depression. I need some help, i am currently seeing a therapist but he is not helping me at all so i was wondering perhaps someone on here could help me out. Ive always found it really hard to make friends, and ive always found it hard to see when people are pretending to be my friends and our actually taking the piss out of me. This has happened so much lately, ive believed someone to be my friend and then i have found out there acutally laughing in my face yet i wasn't able to notice it. Things have been real tough over the last few months and i havent been able to handle it. Things finally started to make sense to me and i realized that all my close friends had been really slagging me off behind my back and just out there to hurt me. They would constantly convince me i needed to change the way i looked and the way i acted. I took it so seriously i found myself constantly worrying about my looks and trying desprately hard to fit in with a group and school and when i wouldnt fit in i would beat myself up about it again and again it would torture me and make me think "whats wrong with me". I cant leave the house now and im being home tutored because i cant stand school i cant hadle being judged by anyone. i know theres somthing wrong with me i need help, i try to find all sorts a ways to get a solution. my latest solution is being a rebel and dressing like a slapper so perhaps people will think im having a good time. Im soo lonely i dont have any friends left. When i do see my old friends on the streets i try desperatly hard to look better than them i feel so immature later on. Ive also met someone online and the relotionship between us has gotten serious. but i need to get out of it because im not in love with him im in love with and image of him if that makes sense. im seeing something in him which isnt there. I dont know how to end it with him i need to get my head straight. I fell for him because he treated me so nicely but i realized that i was falling for every man online who treated me nicely. Please help i just want someone to give me some advice or tell me whats wrong with me or tell me what to doo ???
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reader, darkwind94  +, writes (13 May 2011):
 Sometimes, I feel the same way. Don't worry, there's always people that can help! Try talking to your parents, if that doesn't work, try talking to anyone else you can really trust. Try talking to any teachers, or maybe you can go to some group therapy where you can find people who can relate to you and help you. Don't worry too much about friends, because sometimes, the best friends are the ones who you don't know, since they can't judge you because of the way you look or act in person. The only thing about that is you have to be careful. And if you're really depressed, try to find a reason to have hope. Never stop having faith in yourself! One day you might be happily married and have children, so you gotta make sure you get to where you want to be. I mean, not everyone is gonna treat you badly. There are nice people in this world, even if a lot of them, aren't very friendly. And for relationships, do not like people for the idea of it; it'll only hurt you more later on. The one you should like is the one that won't make you feel lonely and will make you smile and laugh, and is romantic. You can't fall for anyone on the internet because half or the time, they may be lying to you. That's why, when life gives you lemons, you make lemonade. When life knocks you down, get back up. And try not to bottle things up inside you, because one day, you might snap and do something you'll regret. And maturity, it's up to you. You can savor being a kid and not having to go to work, and have bills, taxes, and jury duty, or you can act mature so that people can respect you more. I mean, it's up to you on that. Me personally, I act mature when I want to (especially around other kids my age and adults), but when I want to act like a little kid again, I do that in front of my younger sister, even if it makes me look stupid, I still make myself laugh and feel the joys of not being so serious all the time. Tell me if my advice helped you, and good luck!
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