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writes:I'm currently 16, turning 17 in two weeks, so in essence i can be referred to as 17 in this.I just visited my long-distance relationship girlfriend, for the first time ever, and we've been dating for a year and a half. I love her with all my heart, and i know she's the girl for me.I have to get through one more year of high school, i've applied to numerous colleges around the city she lives in (as well as one backup in my home city), and i'm constantly thinking of my future alongside our relationship, contrary to many articles i've read about underage youths. She lives 6 hours away with her father, she is 17, turning 18 in January, though she has one more year of high school left than me. Her dad is selling her house to her sister and her fiance, which is where i'll probably be living before college and/or during if dorms are too expensive. During summers we would probably drive to my home town on numerous occasions. I currently have a part-time job here, minimum-wage, and the same store has locations minutes from her house. So a job transfer could be possible.My mom approves of her and her family, she is just constantly too busy with my siblings to drive me to see her. I don't know my real father and my stepdad and i have an extreme dislike of each other. My girlfriend's father is trying to fix his car so it would be possible to visit us, but he has financial issues that barrier that from developing. Her mother is incapable of driving because of frequent leg problems.This leads to the current problems :I'm suffering from depression after the visit, i want to see her again so badly, but my mom won't drive me to Ohio again until our 2 year anniversary in December.What can i do to help the pain go away?andIs there possibly any way i could take myself to see her again before next May?I don't have my own car yet, but i probably can afford one by mid-august. The only issue there would be insurance money.My friends are being highly supportive of me and are willing to go on road trips to see her if we could find ways to. Even my friend's father has agreed to set up a "camping trip" for a week, where we could all drive there and back. My friend's dad is fine with talking to my mom and lying for me, i just would like some reassurance and advice. Is that a believable excuse? Working on minimum wage (i make roughly $79 a week) , would i be able to support insurance, the car, and gas to visit her if i could find excuses to be gone for days at a time?Lastly, with a year left i know we can make it, but i just need encouragement and words to share with my love to help everything come out alright. Please help me if you can.
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reader, FleatheHedgehog +, writes (14 November 2010):
FleatheHedgehog is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe broke up almost a year ago, she went crazy after about 4 months and wouldnt even let me go out with my best friends lol
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reader, FleatheHedgehog +, writes (1 July 2009):
FleatheHedgehog is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for the advice
Currently i have everything i need to make a trip except of course, a car.
My girlfriend is beginning to get hit with depression harder though, is there anything i can tell her that will calm her down better?
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reader, Heartbroken-xx  +, writes (25 June 2009):
Don't feel discouraged, I know it seems like a long time before you can see eachother again, but it will come faster then you know it.My boyfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship since november and we have managed to make it work, with only one visit in between.Here are somethings that have truly helped as along the way:- Phone calls- Gifts in the mail- Text Messaging- Webcam- Computer conversationsI know it sucks being away from your girlfriend, but you will get through it. My boyfriend is moving back tomorrow, and I can't even believe the day is already here, it feels like just yesterday we started dating.Save up your money so you can make a trip out there. Is there any possible way you could get more hours at your job, or find another job with more pay? You could even try working two jobs if that's not too much for you to handle.Money comes along way with long distance relationships unfortunatley, but with the proper fiancial support I think you should be able to do it.Don't lose your faith. You will see her again, keep strong and try your best to make ends meet and find a way so you guys can see eachother as soon as possible.You can't do all the work here, she has to put in the effort too, if you plan to go see her, maybe she could pay half?Best of luck in the future!!Let's prove them all wrong that long distance relationships can work with a little patience!!
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