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writes:I need advice on how to meet girls or go up to girls in normal places ie clubs, bars, etc for a threesome?? I know there are books written giving guides or opener lines to use, tips, strategies etc. But wondering if anyone has any suggestions or ideas or better yet EXPERIENCE in actually SUCCESSFULLY doing this and how I can go about it?????I dont have any girl friends I can talk into this and I dont like to use dating sites (I have my own reasons) so seriously this is my preferred way that I want to approach girls ie in public places like clubs, bars etc (not gay places either as that certainly wont work!!) I know there are lots of people here who are quick to condemn and criticise but just for the record. I am a girl and it is my ultimate fantasy to have a girl and a guy at the same time. The guy - I have known for like forever and we are pratically best friends but we have ended up in bed together on occassions. So we are not "in love" or bf/gf and it wont ruin our relationship as such. Neither of us want a serious relationship or can commit to one because of various demands in our lives right now, so our situation suits us just fine. I know threesomes can ruin romantic relationships so this is the ideal situation as there is little or no consequences to explore this fantasy of mine. Anyway he is the only guy I would want to try this with as I trust him so much, am comfortable with and there are genuine emotions between us.I think it is best for us to go out together to try to approach girls...I have spoken to him about it and he is open to the idea. So really need advise on how WE can approach girls or the best strategy, tactics, if together, or if one of us goes over on our own, what to say, opener lines...I mean no clue so really really need some help!!!thanks x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): It's hard to know which people would be interested in a threesome. Have you spoken to any of your friends about it? Also threesomes can be very complicated emotionally and someone could get hurt, for instance if your friend liked the other one better than you.
You can hardly march up to a stranger and suggest a threesome as they may not be up for it. I think I saw a magazine once where people were advertising for unusual situations like this. Or there may be some websites. At least then you would avoid the possible rejections.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): HI I AM THE ORIGINAL POSTER::::
For the last poster thanks for the advice but the reason I can NOT and will NOT use dating sites (yes I have used gumtree) is that there are ALOT of time wasters on there and believe it or not alot of times men pretending to be women to get off or get their kicks! Then the better sites where they may be genuine people you have to pay - and seriously as a student I cant afford to pay that every month! NOT to mention for every one girl that IS looking for a 3some on this site there are about 50 couples looking for a girl.........so the odds are stacked against you!
Secondly have you actually been to a lesbian bar? Firstly the les in there act as though you are a "fence sitter" for being bi and not "choosing" and forget going in there with a guy to look for a 3sum - you will be an outkast (SERIOUSLY!) and thirdly I am NOT attracted to the sort of girls that go there ie butch, etc.
Believe me I have truly explored BOTH those options which never worked! Hence why now I am wanting for us to go out together in normal places. I KNOW it can be done and have known of people who have been to clubs, bars etc and just pulled girls and had threesomes .... so really need tips / advise...ESP from people who have actually had experience in this field (Thanks)
PS PLEASE dont suggest fetish or swinger parties either or anything dodgy - JUST LOOKING for advice on the club / bar scenes.
Thanks
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (18 April 2008):
I know you don't want to use dating sites....
But why not advertise on somewhere like Gumtree.com.
You will find it really hard/impossible to find someone in a pub / club who's up for no strings Bi-sexual fun who you both fancy enough to do it. A lot of people will be horrified because as you say, most people are quick to judge.
Anyone who is up for it straight away is likely to be someone who you might not want to sleep or who may have STDs.
Your best bet is either to advertise for a stranger, or find another close friend who is in the same position as you.
If you do want to risk the pub / club route then I would go to gay bars and see if you can find a bi girl there.
Where ever you go I think you (the girl) should take the lead as statistically only 1 in 10 people are gay, so he would get rejected at least 8 out of 10 times straight away, where as you will only attract gay girls who are far more likely to be Bi.
You sound sensible but I have to say it anyway... CONDOMS!!
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, salvation +, writes (18 April 2008):
well if your intention is just a one night stand threesome then make it clear to avoid hurting anyone else. Just be open and honest. Chat a bit fist to get to know the person then when your comfortable with her tell her and talk about it.
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