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writes:I am only 16, and have been with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half. hes joining the army and is going to be away all summer. to tribulize the situation he has a really weird home life, with parents on the verge of splitting and controling every aspect of their children's lives. he wasn't even able to date until he turns 16, until we FINALLY convinced them to accept it. i never see him as it is, in my opinion, his parents see me as the reason they're rocky (which isn't true, because if they had embraced their son's NATURAL and obviously DEEP and REAL feelings, we wouldn't have had to sneak around and make his parents think he is completely untrustworthy.) Also i believe they care more about the wellbeing of the taliban's feelings then mine (extreme army family.) i see him, barely ever, and am in the relationship only because i want to see the kind of person he will become once he is moved out and free of his parent's influence. i saw this side of him when we could actually see each other when we snuck around, now we're watched like vultures, and he's not even allowed at my house. do i stick around all summer watching my friends and their boyfriends? is there any advice for getting through the summer?ANY advice is welcome!
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reader, Lauz06  +, writes (25 March 2007):
 My best friend just moved to the army about a year ago, and his girlfriend was devastated when he left but now they have a stronger relationship than ever before. They keep in touch and he sees her everytime that he comes home. If it's meant to be, which you seem pretty sure about, then it will hopefully work out just as my friend's did. Just let your boyfriend know how you feel, he probably feels the same about leaving you! Hope i helped a little xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2007): dont give up hun:) if you really really love this guy then he will be worth it:)if you let go of him, you may regret it, and wish that you had stayed with him. if you get a new boyfriend, you may be continually comparing this new guy to him. so if you really do love this guy, stick with him. can you phone each other?x
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reader, livi +, writes (25 March 2007):
 hey there,
Dont give up, you liek this guy, right? then you can just throw away a year and a half of being together, relationships all get difficult, te key is to how to handle the hard bits. it will get extra hard when his family is as controlling as his, but they are just trying to protect their son, you cant take what they say too offensively.
talk to your boyfriend how you feel, but i don think there is anything wrong with hanging out with other couples over the summer htat are your firneds. after all you cant be the only single girl in alll of America!
Relax aboutthe situation and im sure it will take care of itself.
Good luk with it all : D
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reader, home_land  +, writes (25 March 2007):
 hello
stay at home do talk to him ,dont talk against his family
show him how you feel and wait to see what he will do becouse he has to be a man and sand for his love
when i was 16 i had the same with my first girlfriend i use to write her letters poems and sind it with my yungest brother he was the mail man and you know i was mad about her just to see her walking down the street going to scholl and after 2 years i was 18 her family knew about it and that was the end its a long story and in 2 years of love i dont remember that we talked to each other 100 words it was writing smils and eye contact .
good luck
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