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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi Guys,I met a girl online 2 months ago ( I am 32 she is 26 ) and we conversed via email for a couple of weeks before moving to phone then our first date was about 5 weeks ago I am 32 she is 26. We had a great afternoon, we then had a second date a week later and became intimate. The third date the week later was a short affair as she had plans on the Saturday but came out with me after wards where she stayed over again. It was then a fortnight before our 4th date due to her having a weekend away.This is where I am now confused, we had planned to spend the afternoon last Saturday which I organized then the evening dinner and a comedy show and she was goign to stay at my place. She ended up changing these plans at the last minute ( the Saturday morning ) Now I am a bit confused as to why and the late notice. She said she was moving from her brothers to her dads house which are not far apart and needed the time to make that happen thought this was well known in advance. What i didn't understand is the difference between her going home at 9pm and early in the morning..I feel if the roles were reversed i would of crawled over hot coals and wouldn't of bailed on the full date. as it was she caught the train home at 7:30 after dinner, she texted to say she had a lovely time and for the first time ended the text with an x which I took as a good sign. I replied to the same effect that was 3 days ago..I understand as a man sex is different but I don't understand her wanting to have sex with me two weeks in a row then effectively 2 weeks later not and now add another 2 weeks to it due to her being busy this weekend, makes it a month and it seems to me if she was enjoying it / attracted to me she wouldn't be waiting a month to revisit. I feel two weeks between dates at this stage is too long I like approx a week between dates. I must add communication between dates is poor but she has never been a texter so this is consistent and I'm not the hassling needy type. She intimates at future plans, notably me coming down to her neck of the woods but then doesn't seem to action it, I don't feel I am in a position to organize a visit to her..I am really confused where I stand right now ? her actions on dates -kissing, hand holding, future date planning etc.. indicate she is interested but her lack of action in between dates is giving me mixed signals, Personally if I am sleeping with a woman I am not dating other women, but I understand this may not necessarily be the case the other way around and we certainly haven't talked about any form of dating exclusivity other men / women etc... I just don't like the idea that I am doing too much chasing ? Was she testing me ?Confused as to my next steps are ?Should I just call and try and organize date 5 ? is it still expected for me to take the lead ?
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reader, shadoweyes1980  +, writes (31 July 2012):
 The key to any good relationship is communication. Have you talked to her about it? I suggest you ask her where she thinks the relationship is headed and respect her space if she needs it.
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