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writes:Okay i have a question. yes this is one of many of those teacher student relationship questions, but this time i was wondering if there were any males or actual teachers out there that could give advice rather than women. not that girls dont give good advice, i just need some from the other side because there is lack of it.Yes there is a teacher, a male teacher. i dont know its wierd. just like everyone else on here says...he does treat me differently. its just little gestures that he does like glance at me when he is lecturing, he comes over to me when ever i need him, he lets me call him a nickname (along with a couple other friends), he lets me do pretty much whatever i want. i really feel like i take advantage of him in class. i saw him at the mall just recently and he seemed really nervous, but not in the way that he feels he'll get in trouble but in the way that he is just purely nervous around me. he makes little jokes about us "hanging out" in class from that one time and always has really casual conversations with me about life and stuff.now it is clear that alot of girls like him because he is only 23 (he just turned 23 like 2 months ago) and really close to our age. i hang out with people his age all the time so it is really weird and i know how most of them can get. i even had a conversation with him about dating his students after high school but his was response obviously was "no thats just weird". he always talks to me and my 2 fiends in class and me and him have this so-called joke of a "love-hate relationship".i dunno, i obviously think he is really attractive. but, i am not saying i am in love with him because that would be false. i do think about him all the time though and my heart warms up when i think about him.my problem is that i dont know if i just feel this way, or if alot of other people feel the same way. i dont know what other people really think and i really need a male or teachers perspective on this one especially because i dont even think i am the prettiest girl. i mean i find myself pretty outgoing, and upbeat but i have braces so that makes me self conscious. i graduate next year, so i dont know.what does this all mean??!! HELLP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): Honestly!
Even if he is into you...it's not worth it.
You need to have a "normal" relationship.
A boyfriend with whom you can goto the mall, movies, out to eat without having to hide.
ALso, if he is really interested on you...YOU don't have to do anything...Let him do what he needs to do.
Plus he is the adult.
DOn't get yourself in trouble and don't get yourself in trouble.
Take care,
Imelda
PS I went throught something similar..recently!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): I'm not a teacher or a guy, but as with all student-teacher relationships this one would have the potential to ruin his career and your reputation. I live in CA, don't know what the rules for age of consent etc. are in your state but we have teachers get arrested and sent to prison all the time out here for having sex with underage students. If you think it won't get out if you don't tell anyone, think again--a lot of these illicit relationships are reported by people other than the parties directly involved. If you really feel anything for this guy then wait till you're of age and have graduated, otherwise this could cause serious problems for both of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): You say you have friends his age that you hang out with, presumably some are male. Do you not have any feelings for them?If not, I think this just points to the fact that teachers, like bosses in the workplace, occupy a position of authority and certain power and it is this which is the attraction, I think.I wouldn't say that personally, I am in anyway attractive to much younger ladies. However, in my professional life I have occupied various positions of authority and as such, noticed a marked increase in my popularity among much younger women!They say power is a heady aphrodisiac so, think on: is it the man that you fancy OR what he represents?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): Can't help I'm afraid... I'm neither a teacher nor a male. But I can't understand why you aint getting on with your school work, don't you have exams to do.
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