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writes:Ok.I need some advice from you people out there willing to help me.So my GF finally decided to tell her parents about us, and surprisingly her dad didnt take it the way we thought he was going to. On the other hand, her mom was somewhat upset with her.Things have gotten better though, but her parents said they would like to get to talk to me. I know this is a huge step, but i want to do it as well. I am nervous though, since I have never done this before. I dont know what to do. Any advice is greatly appreciated. I really need help on this one. Reply to this Question
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reader, angelsrock18 +, writes (19 September 2009):
 no problem, just act like yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advice, im sure it'll be very helpful. and im planning on doing it this sunday, and im a little nervous. i hope it all goes good.
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reader, Candleman +, writes (17 September 2009):
 You sound like a good kid. Be yourself. I guarantee you , it will not be as bad as you think it is going to be, but you will be glad when it is done.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2009): Well, when you meet them, reach out and shake their hands without them having to do it first. This will show confidence, leadership, charisma and manners!
When you are speaking with them, maintain eye contact and answer each question clearly, leaving out the words "uh" excessive "like"s and "um."
Reciprocate their words to make conversation by asking them quesitons about themselves (what do you do, where do you do it, how long have you been married, etc.). It never looks good when someone only talks about themselves and/or carries on a one-way conversation. (them talking, you muttering non-responsively = not good). If you ask for something, say "please" and "thank you" and always ALWAYS show upmost respect for their daughter. Excessive displays of affection will most likely no be appreciated by her parents. That's their little girls you're dealing with!
But do all this while being yourself. If you're serious, be serious. If you like to joke, joke.
Take a deep breath and relax! You'll have plenty of chances to make an impression! Most parents will judge you immediately so don't take it personally if they do.
~Sy.
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