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writes:I've always had a problem with commitment and very rarely do I get past 3 months with a guy. It normally gets to a point where sex stops, I don't get in the mood for it, any little things that they do really irritate me... but it's not them, I know it's me but I don't know what it is...I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and I really do love him to bits, I couldn't imagine my life with out him in it, but I don't feel like having sex with him any more, we don't kiss, he even said it's like we arent boyfriend and girlfriend any more, it's just like he's hanging out with his mate.Neither of us are happy, we don't even argue so it feels like there are no feelings. I don't know what to do. Each day like this is making it worse, but I made a huge mistake a couple of weeks ago, I slept with a guy I used to like, I saw him 3 times in 3 weeks, we only slept together the once, but he thinks he may be falling for me and I've always had feelings for him, but they seem to be a bit stronger now ......Thing is though, after the night I slept with this other guy, cause it was all new, I was really into him and when I saw my boyfriend after, I carried on being into him - if you get what I mean, 'into ' = all kissy and playful, something that I hadn't been like for a while with my boyfriend and it felt really nice to be like that again but now I've got myself into a huge mess and really don't know what to do. As I said I love my boyfriend but am I in love with him? I don't want to lose him, but I don't want to stay with him and make him unhappy for any longer.I really don't even know if any of this has made any sense?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni do love him - and i know it doesnt seem so after what i did,
but after doin that i realised that i dont think i could see my life with out him,
basically- a dont know what u have till its gone kinda thing,,
i know ill never meet another guy like him and feel the way i do about anyone else- this guys different from anyone else i know-
so why dont i wanna do stuff with him in the bedroom?
i still fancy him,i still get the same butterflies when i look at a pic from before we were together.....i dont understand?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): Well, let's start with, if you love him, why did you sleep with somebody else? I feel a relationship NEEDS a certain amount of intimacy to make it survive, even if you're not into it 100%, especially if you were banging him already, if you don't love him, let him go.
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