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writes:My current girlfriend was met whilst I was dating her close friend. At that time she was in a break-up situation with her boyfriend and I didn't take much notice of her. As time went by I grew fond of her but was not attracted to her. She admitted she cared for me and could not stand it, that her friend was cheating on me, which was unfortunately true. She visited me at my place and one thing led to another and we had the most passionate, non-conservative sex over a whole week-end. We agreed that there were no-strings attached as I was not ready for an immediate steady relationship. We continued and had sex like 3-4 times a day every other week.. we were not exclusive so on both sides there were other sexual relationships, once her ex visted her and they had sex.. that same night she and I had sex, it was still ok as 'no-strings attached' A year passed with our on and off sexual escapades and my room-mate moved out so I looked for another, however my girlfriend offered that I move in with her. This I did three years ago and we then became serious and decided that we have an exclusive relationship. She declared that she loved me from the first time she met me. We began a 'serious' relationship. Last year-end, I hinted marriage.. but was not sure myself. In March 07, she indicated that she wanted to get married and I agreed. In May 07 my job needed me to relocate to another country.. The plan was for her to join me in July 07. In June 07, she confessed of talking to ex-boyfriends and being flirtatious but assured me nothing sexual transpired. I was upset and thought about all her past relationships over 12 with sexual encounters (she is 30) With all of that I called things off between us, she agreed that she was sorry and that I should move on as she only seems to mess-up. In the interim she had been preparing to relocate, she had resigned, sold the furn etc. The thing is that I needed her with me. She arrived in July 07 and we talked things over and committed to start of fresh, with a clean slate, however as much as I want to, I cannot seem to trust her. She started a new job and I am insecure about a guy that she always mentions, that is how helpful he is and what a wonderful person etc etc. A lot of the things came back to taunt me when we were not exclusive... eg: she used to tell me that wearing a deep cleavage blouse, gives the guys something to look at, she always wears her pants in such a way that her G-string goes half way up her back.. this neva bothered me before but now it does... After we got serious, I hated it but spoke to her about her G-string issue, felt bad about it as it was actually my issue and did not want to dictate to her dressing. She showed concern about that briefly but nothing really changed. I don't mentione it anymore, even though it does bother me. We both still have very sexual appetites, but recently mine is higher than hers. For variety we used to watch porn and love-make, now that notion has worn off. Now we talk about three-somes, during sex... she says she'd like to see me do it with another girl and she would like us all three to be together... this went further as we now agreed on who the other girl should be.. she is a friend of hers and I also know her. Now my girlfriend mentions her name and the fantasy with this other girl, after the first two times, my girlfriend mentioned that this is just a fantasy, Now I find myself more aroused than usual when this fantasy is mentioned and cum a lot more... My girlfriend picked up on this as she mentioned it to me. Now I seem to have difficulty cumming even after my girlfriend had her 2nd or 3rd orgasm... then she blurts the fantasy again and that picture just makes me erupt like a volcano. I must add that there is guilt in the aftermath and I am not sure about this whole situation/relationship anymore and I am going crazy!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for taking the time to respond. There are definitely points to ponder on...Cool dude
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reader, DJ8433  +, writes (11 August 2007):
 If you think you are going crazy now, try and hold together a relationship after you've invited another person in your bedroom. There is no going back. If you are a man and she is a woman, then there will be issues of jealousy, anger, pain, frustration, fear of loss...unless you have no feeling for each other, which from what you describe you have. I do not recommend it unless you want to lose a part of her forever that you will never be able to get back. Lust is something we have for a reason, it makes our dicks hard and their pussy's wet. Relationship are there to make or break. If you can't see a forever future with this woman, then go ahead and play, but at that point is when you are no longer exclusive. Exclusive as in just the two of you. Decide if you want her or don't, when you make that decision all your other answers will fall into place.
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