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*ilyrose
writes:My boyfriend and i have been in a long distance relationship for 5 years,we seen each other last year.On oct 11,2010,i moved out of my moms house,without letting her know where i was going.I went to my bf house and stayed for 3 weeks,and my mom called the police and they found me.My mom is not happy because i am still with this guy because he is poor.He proved to me that he loves me,cleans for me,cooks for me,etc.He does everything for me.My boyfriend and i have been suffering alot because my mom does not want me to be with him.Me and my boyfriend have been crying together,but my mom does not care if he cries.Today i am back home with my mom,i want her to accept this relationship,please help me,i am 27 years old.
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (8 November 2010):
Your mother shouldn't be able to call the police to get you to come home. You're 27 and way beyond the age of a legal adult. You can make your own decisions about what you want to do. It's a matter of standing up for what you want. Make it clear that this is what you want, and she can accept it and be supportive or be distanced away from her daughter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2010): you are an adult woman. It is very concerning that your mother is ruling your life. If you have a chance of happiness then embrace that opportunity. Does you mother want you to stay friendless and alone so that you are available to look after her in her old age? Do not allow your mother to push you around. You can do what ever you want. How has your mother imposed her dominance on you so soundly that you give in to your mother's unreasonable demands so uneasily? Is your main income coming from your mother? Are you employed? Can you stand on your own two feet and support yourself? If you were aged 13 or were in some moral danger i may be able to understand. If you were 17 instead of 27 i may be able to understand why your mother might call the Police. But at age 27 you can and should be making your own decisions.
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