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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have feelings that're scattered between the father of my child and my ex boyfriend before him. I left my daughter's father last November and my ex boyfriend before him wants me back. My ex boyfriend broke my heart. Things were going great between us for two years until (some where in the two years), I think his feelings were fading away. It all started when I was getting on his case about finances...paying bills on time. He was immature. Should I pay for the electricity bill for this month or should I by the Rambo collection? That should be an easy answer but unfortunately, his common sense wasn't in tact. Too make a long story short, since everything was going down hill, losing his job, losing his apartment and getting ready to lose his car, why not move back home to stay with friends? He wasn't going to let me know. He just left. I had to find out from his sister, who is still my best friend. He knew he was losing a good thing. Now, he wants me back. He still tells me he loves me. The whole nine yards. Years went by and I don't feel the same. We've been talking on the phone but I haven't heard from him in the past couple of days. I have been thinking about him a lot lately in which little by little, my feelings for him are starting to come back. But unfortunately, I still have feelings for the father of my child. We were together for two years and a few months. We were engaged. He was so eager to get married. He was so good to be true. We both met on an military installation because he use to be in the military and I am employed on base. Things were going great, going good. A smile on my face. He have two kids from his previous marriage and we have a beautiful daughter together. He got kicked out of the military. I stood by his side thru rough times, help taken care of his children, took the BIG responsibility of the head of the household. He was going from job to job, I taken care of ALL FIVE of US on my paycheck and it was rough, still is. Anyhow, the reason why I left is because he cheated on me. I was so devasted, so hurt, felt like my heart dropped. He slept with his son's best friend's mother and some girl who told him she was 19 but found out she turned 18 a few months after I found out. My feelings are scattered between these two. I know they aren't right for me but it's so hard to forget about them when I have to deal with one of them. I am doing great since I left the father of my child but since he's cried his heart out to me, saying he's sorry for all he's done then text messaging me saying it was all an act? He's already broken my trust, why should I trust him in anything he tells me or say or does? It's like I'm doing great then when I see them, the bad and the good memories come back to mind. Any ideas on how to maintain a good standing for myself without any inteference from these two?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): Your knight in shining armour will appear when you least expect it. Cherish your daughter for now and I promise he'll turn up. Leave these 2 well alone, they were not meant for you. Good Luck Xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2007): You know in your heart both of these men aren't good for you and I can only imagine you're lonely too. The only sucess I've had from staying away from a "proven" bad relationship is to do everything in your power to not call them, invite them to dinner or to sleep with them. You have a child to raise and that's a big responsiblity. When you feel lonely look at your little one and ask yourself if you want either of those men to be role models for her.
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