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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hey, any advice would be really appreciated. My ex and I broke up about 8 weeks ago. We were friemds/flatmates before deciding to give things a go. We are very different, but we just seemed to click in some way, especially in bed. He is a quiet person, and quite hard to read. He had a relationship when he was younger, but took ages to get over it as his ex and him remained friends. I honestly cannot explain why I fell for him, I just did. It must because he's so mysterious. I find him physically attractive, which I don't usually get with a lot of blokes (ie I have to know them first) The thing is, I know we're not on paper what you'd call a 'perfect match' and we broke up because he said he didn't feel the 'beginning of relationship feeling you should get' and because I didn't think we saw enough of each other, and wasn't fulfilled by the relationship. The thing is, I know all of this in my head, but in m heart, I miss him terribly, it's like a big weight on me. I'm also surprised and frustrated as I can't contemplate why I feel like this, as I know the relationship wasn't right as it was. He is already dating another person, and although i'm aware of this, it just doesn't seem 'real' or sit well that this is the case. He is not what you'd call a 'dater', yet he's gone straight into a relationship. If he is happy, then I think life is too short, and that he should go with what feels right. I just can't stop hurting. The pain overwhelms me sometimes, and it's made worse by the fact that I can't pinpoint exactly what I miss about him, as he's such a introverted person. I just completely, and utterly miss him. Whenever we speak/see each other, I act completely cool, as If I'm not bothered he's dating. But I am. Sorry for the long post, just need some input/advice, this just feels likie the worst I've ever felt after a break up (even though I've split up with people after longer. My friend thinks that i'm grieving living with him as flatmates, as well as the relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2011): Thanks! I tried the letter thing, it helped release some feelings, I think every relationship I've had before have been easier to read, hence why i'm finding this one particularly difficult to get over! thanx again for the advice!
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