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writes:I'm 23 and my boyfriend is 25, we have been together for seven years and he has been in the army for the last 5. We are really happy together and love each other so much that we are ready to take the next step and buy a house. I've never been too happy about him being in the army but I stuck by him because I really do love him. We have been apart many times before because of his job but for some reason this time I can't cope. I normally only get to see him on weekends but this year he has been on one exercise after the other, then he went away for 7 weeks only to come home for 2 weekends and go away again for another 9 weeks. I'm not thinking of ending it at all but I just need to know how to get through this because I feel so miserable and down. I've tried all the usual things of making loads of plans with my friends, wrapping myself up with my work and allowing myself a couple of days to be down before pulling myself together but I can't snap out of it. I feel like a two year old who wants to stamp her foot because I want to see him so much. Please can someone tell me how to get through this?ThanksGeorgia Reply to this Question
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reader, IAMDONE  +, writes (2 May 2011):
I have been dating an over the road truck driver for nearly 5 years now and I only got to see him once a week when he was here in the city I live. We usually spent the evening he was here in a local casino, had dinner together, and spent the night together and he was up early the next morning back on the road. I knew I was going to see him the next week to come so I busied myself baking cookies, picking up snacks,and small tokens that I thought he would enjoy. We talked on the phone often. It was a wonderful relationship and then he lost his truck and his job and it has been 1 year ago today that his trips to my city stopped. It was difficult for me not seeing him every week and he was so far away from me...clear across the country and too expensive for me to visit. We continued to talk to each other and he came here and spent 5 days with me in January, I have not seen him since. It is very difficult for me and I am even thinking about ending the relationship with him because it is fruitless now. In your situation your boyfriend is working and his job keeps him away from you. I understand that you are busy and keep an active life which is very good. It is not easy to tell the heart what to think and not to think. It is very hard being away from a loved one...but things could be a lot worse which is the other side of the coin. Keep communication lines open and share with your boyfriend all that you are feeling and do make plans for when he will be coming home. It is okay to cry, it is okay to miss him, and it is okay to let him know. Work on thinking about the grand times you will have together when he does return. Make some special plans and keep your head up!
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