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*aria22
writes:I used to work in a well known food retail store in London but got the sack, last month, after many disciplinary hearings for being late. There was a guy (we'll call him 'John') who worked next door to me; I liked him the second he approached me - we just clicked and that has never happened to me before. We started talking, he would find me outside smoking, he would come looking for me around the store if I wasn't at the tills, I know this because my colleagues would see him going around the store and double checking if I was there.I was the only young girl working there so yes I was sure it was me he was looking for and not my middle aged colleagues. He made it pretty obvious he liked me and I'm sure I gave a few hints that I liked him too.He tried to get me alone a few times and succeeded only to be disrupted by customers so we never got to exchange phone numbers. The last time I saw him was a Saturday in December, I was then off sick for a week and a half and he was leaving his job. By the time I came back he was long gone. He apparently looked for me but I just wish he left his number.I tried looking for him on Facebook but I can't find him. I don't know what to do because I have really strong feelings for him and remember him all day even in my dreams.One of my colleague is on holiday but I've asked her to tell one of his former colleague who comes round for his breakfast and lunch that i miss him.I feel so lost, what should I do? Please help
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reader, Maria22 +, writes (25 May 2015):
Maria22 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for replying :) i am here to give you an update and... Well apparently he left his number with my colleague but she had my old number so I had no idea he was looking for me too But i decided to visit the other day and we're back in contact! Thanks again for your advice x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2015): It might not be the first route you'd choose- but, if all else fail your ex-employers must have contact details/ his full name.
They may not be able to give you his nnumber but I'm sure they'd share his last name if you asked in the right manner.
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reader, Midnight Shadow +, writes (1 February 2015):
 You could always ask his colleagues now though....
Voluntary work can still give you bad references if you're not being on time :/
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reader, Maria22 +, writes (1 February 2015):
Maria22 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks midnight shadow, I know exactly what you mean, that is why I've got a volunteer job so I don't need to worry about bad references.
I wish I did talk to his colleagues, that would of made it even easier looking for 'John' but I'm afraid he was the only guy I spoke to from his shop.
I am at a dead end here! x
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reader, Midnight Shadow +, writes (1 February 2015):
You should focus more on being on time, as to avoid being fired again :P Well, that, and you need good references - employers don't want employees who repeatedly turn up late, to the point that they got fired :/
As for the guy, I think you need to stop the teenage hearsay "told her to tell him, to pass on to...." etc. ;) If you can remember anyone who was a mutual friend or at least may still have contact, that would be good. You could say to them "hi, I was wondering if you could tell ____ that ____ ____ (your name), from ____ (shop), would like to catch up / have a chat on Facebook".
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reader, Maria22 +, writes (31 January 2015):
Maria22 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your replies,I kind of feel a bit relieved now that I've expressed my feelings to someone.
And yes I do know his name but not his surname and his name has three different spellings which doesn't help at all haha.
I will definitely update you guys on what happens when my collegue talks to his former collegue.
I can only hope for the best x
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2015): If u looked for him on facebook u would know his name , therefore u could always pop in to his old workplace and play dumb and ask for him they'll say he's left n u could ask where has he gone they probably won't tell you so then you say could you pass my number on to him I worked next door and was off sick when I came back I hadn't noticed him about , worth a try if u like him that much and if your shy take a friend with u
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