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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have never been with a girl and I don't want to be in a relationship with a girl, but lately I've been having major fantasies about being with a woman. I have a boyfriend, so this cant really happen, but I am almost really wanting it to be able to happen. I love my boyfriend, and I don't want to break up with him, but I also don't know how to tell him. Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2009): You can be attracted to both genders and be with one person forever. They're two different things. Attraction is just what turns you on. Being with someone intimately means you connect with that person emotionally, mentally and/or physically. Think of it as the same as if you are only attracted to one gender.
If you think your boyfriend is more open minded about sexuality, then you can bring this up with him. If he is borderline on it, you can withhold yourself and bring up generalized scenarios and see how he would feel about that. If he is no go with it regardless, then you can decide whether you want to tell him or not and risk losing him OR maybe 'worst', get you into a threesome with him involved in which case I am unsure if that is something you want to do - hence the 'worst' part.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2009): Most women your age are bi-curious, so that doen't mean you are bi. Since you have fantasies about being with another woman, it might be best to keep it that way. You can always get some girl/girl porn to watch and enjoy that with your boyfriend.
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reader, Replacement +, writes (25 February 2009):
 Invite him to watch.
Problem solved!
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