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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi.I went out to a nightclub with my friend last night.There was this guy i was interested in at first, and i danced with him for most of the night,but later on, i saw another guy i found attractive ( he looked like a younger Robert Downey jr, so in my opinion, he was very attractive ).He said nice to meet you and told me his name.He said i was very pretty and had gorgeous eyes. At one point, i was stood talking to him, and the other guy i had been dancing with walked off in a huff, and the other guy said he thought he might have been jealous, and he said he looked really hurt and looked like he was in love with me.He also thought that guy was m boyfriend, but i told him i had only just met him, and he said you're lying to me. I told him i didn't have a boyfriend and he said why not ? I asked him if he liked me and he said yeah of course i do.The problem was, he had a girfriend.he ahd been dancing on his own, but at one point, i did see him dancing near a girl.He also said that his girlfriend had been in the club with him, but had left.Before i knew that, i asked him if he wanted to go out with me, but he said you dont want to get with me, i know what i'm like.I'm not sure what he meant by that, but i assumed he meant he flirts with people or maybe even cheats.I'm not sure if i'm imagining this, my memory is a bit fuzzy, but i think he also said that if he didn't have a girlfriend,he would go out with me.He also tried to kiss me, but i didnt kiss him,firstly because i knew he had a girlfriend, and because the other guy was near us. I was very tempted to kiss him though.I had asked him if he wanted to keep intouch as friends, just incase he ever became single, but unfortunately, i didnt want to risk giving him my number infront of the other guy.It was a waste of time with the other guy anyway, as he didnt ask for my number and i found out he works for an escort service !.So he mustn't have been upset coz i was talking to the other guy.He had been quite protective though as he told me to tell him if any other guys were bothering me, as quite a few of them were staring and tried to chat me up ( this is the guy iwas dancing with, hope i'm not confusing you ).The thing is, i kind of regret not giving second guy my number.I haven't been able to stop thinking about him all day. He was confident , good looking, stylish, and i just thought we could have been a good match. Of course, it was worrying that he tried to kiss me though when he already had a girlfriend.I know you can't help being attracted to someone even though you're with someone else, but you can stop yourself from doing anything physical i think.He said he didn't know where his girlfriend had gone, which makes me wonder why she left .What do you think about this ?.I'm still kind of hoping i'll see him again, and that he might end up single.Although, since i've only seen him once, maybe this crush will pass pretty soon and i'll forget him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2009): The guy was saying all that stuff to charm you and to get you to admit the other guy you were with was not your boyfriend so if he made a move on you he wouldn't get beat up. He sounds too smooth and he isn't all that commited to his girlfriend. Most guys you meet in bars are hoping to get lucky for the night. Don't expect to meet a guy that you can start a relationship with in a bar.
I have never had a boyfriend that I met in a bar...and I am 53 and I dated a lot when I was younger and went to the bars with my friends....
Don't give out your phone number to strange men you meet in bars either...
Try getting involved in some activities during the daylight hours or night classes that bring you in contact wirh people with similar interests at you and make a friend first, and then you may find a decent guy.
Guys who want to settle down with a girl are not usually cruising the bars looking for an easy lay, they are out living their lives....and being productive.
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