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writes:i really need some advice.i dont understand why i feel like this-its silly.a guy i work with who only started a month ago im sure im developing feelings for-why ? well when we work together we get on really really well-it feels like we're flirting rather than working. everytime i work with him i dont want the day to end. i go home and get really excited about working with him again. ive helped him loads being new and stuff. heres the problem.his ex wife left him 6 months ago-he took it really badly but is already casually dating someone he met 3 weeks ago. he has 4 kids 2 from first wife-teenagers-two from second-little toddlers. ive been alone for 8 months-the guy i was with used me and left me in loads of debt-so i dont want any problems.can you please help me here though-what should i do ? i catch him looking at me and then when i turn my head he looks away-he calls me nearly everyday for help and work advice and we have a LOT in common and like i said when we work together we get on amazingly well . im not a troublemaker and sure need a quiet life and dont want to get hurt but is he rebounding with this other girl ? when we talk he seems quite fragile and this is crazy but i always worry about him -whats going to happen i didnt ask for or expect these feelings-will they go away-does he like me-is he dodgy help please also he said something weird the other night-he owns 3 houses-one hes selling from his current wife but is living with a friend in her house-says he 'rents'the other properties out. i dont want to doubt him but that seemed weird.aswell please give me advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2009): do u really want to get involved with him, especially knowing he has kids and all., Even if u did start something with him, he wont really have time to spend with you besides work. Does he have custody of his kids..if so he is responsible to take care of them, n ofcourse he has to put his kids before u. Maybe right now u feel different because u r developing feelings for him, but later in couple months if u sleep with him he wont be able to make time to spend with you due to his own situation. Look at this from his point of view also before making your move. Unless u just wanna get in his pants then talk to him and make a deal to what exactly is going to happen.
Good Luck!!
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