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*adeybaby
writes:I am 15 year old female. I recently met up with this guy i had been talking to on the internet. I know it sounds stupid and that I shouldn't trust someone off the internet, but I really like this guy and I was wondering whether I should see him again?
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reader, cmb16  +, writes (31 May 2008):
Unless you have verifiable mutual friends, he seems a little old, and if he knows how old you are, he should not be going for it. A 21 year old guy should be able to meet girls his age in real life. I know they say "age is just a number" but you two are going through completely different stages in life. If you do decide to see him again, bring a friend or stage it in a public place. Stay safe.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (28 May 2008):
 be careful sweetie the internet can be good and bad. some people can find their happy ending whilst others meet a less fun end. ok i have met a few people off the internet but never promised them nothing but a friendship, which that way you can keep yourself from hurt and if over the span of a year you feel they are worthy then take it further. because some will give you what you want to hear just to get what they want but make them work for it. they have to earn your trust :) as they should want you to earn theirs...and as for others opinions on online meetings its no different than a club you dont know him and he could still give you the same crap story so..bring a friend with you to meet him and see how he copes with it..just dont rush into is my best advice take it easy..bring a friend for judgement and always meet in a public place.. thats my opinion aphex x
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reader, Justmealone +, writes (28 May 2008):
This is against the law for this guy to meet you ! You're under aged and he's legally an adult and could be put in prison for meeting you.I think it's best that you stick to guys your own age and stop trying to grow up too fast.
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reader, jadeybaby +, writes (28 May 2008):
jadeybaby is verified as being by the original poster of the question he is 21 years old
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (27 May 2008):
how old is this male ? aphex
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008): Be very careful.
If you want to meet up with him again then ALWAYS taken someone with you. If you can another male, an older brother or friend, someone that will be able to protect you.
Take good care.
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (27 May 2008):
 I met my husband through the internet. Infact we lived so far away at one point it was the only way to have ever met him and I am very happy for it.
I would however express extreme caution when it come to meeting people through the internet. Just as you would through a bar or any other form of social gathering that doesn't have a friendly introduction from a family member or friend who can vouche for the person's character.
Not everyone on the internet is just out to get you and some people are genuinely sweet and true, but this world is full of weirdos. Just keep your eyes open and stay alert.
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reader, Needed~Advice  +, writes (27 May 2008):
i have been in the exact same situation as you, the only difference is that i went against my judgment and continued to see him. You have to understand the internet is like a sick twisted jungle, its so easy to fool someone into believing your something your not. most men that speak to numerous girls (even maybe at the same time) on the internet have only one thing on their minds, and its obviously not finding their true love. when i met this guy on the interent, he swept me off my feet, made me feel like i was the only woman around, but i realized too late, that this had been one of his few talents with many other women. this "sweet innocent 'i dont kiss on the first date' bull was all an act and i wasnt the first or the last to be pulled into his demented game. at one point in our relationship, he accidently left his email opened, and being the snoop that i am i checked it. he was sending other girls messages EXACTLY like the first message he ever sent me "your the most beautiful woman in the world..." ext. ext... and we were still together. you see most men that look for "love" on the internet are players, they hooked up before on the internet and if you hook up with him, you probably wont be his last cyber fling. Like men say, why break a winning combination? if the internet worked for them in the past, it must be able to work again for them, right? and plus your still soo young and trust me the number of predators online now a days has reached an all time high. better to go out and meet people, at least you have that first impression and that intuition to tell you if the situation makes you uncomfortable. -- i made the mistake once of meeting a guy on the internet, turned out to be a total player, and got my heart broken. I hope its not the same for you... and if you do decide to meet him again, bring along a friend, or have your friend "accidently" bump into you guys on the next date so atleast she can give you her true opinion. she will be honest with you and you will know her judgment wont be impaired by his "charm" that you fell for.
good luck!!!
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reader, :):):) +, writes (26 May 2008):
Not everybody you meet on the internet is who they say they are so be very vigilant.
If you like this guy and got on well, the its ok to see him again, as long as it is in a public place, e.g. cinema, town centre... and always let a friend know where you are going and who you are going to see.
As long as you are careful I dont see a problem
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