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writes:I met this really great guy, Terry a few years ago. He is great! There is only one problem. He has this nagging baby mama. She calls, comes by to drop the baby off early in the morning, calls all night asking for diapers, saying the baby needs him and all kinds of annoying things. I'm really starting to fall in love with him. He says he hates the drama. He tries to be nice to her. I respect that. I can't deal with the baby mama drama. He says he needs me. I need him, too. What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, tina888  +, writes (2 October 2008):
the problem is...he has to accept some of that drama as the mama may try to stop him seeing the baby. if you are not careful, you will end up resenting the baby and this will drive him away, blood is thicker than water don't forget. The drama is probably all for your benefit anyway. Maybe the mama, is just trying to make life difficult for you guys. So stay strong. If he can agree fix days and times for visits and explain to the mum that this is better for the child and everyone, you all have a chance to have more stable, relaxed lives.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2008): I am in a similar situation. All I can say is stay out of their problems. If you get too involved he will only resent you for it later. My boyfriend once said, "they are my problems, I took part in it, I have to fix them." And its true! We love each other too and the baby mama drama takes its toll but if you want it to last just be supportive but be neutral.
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