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writes:I don't know if my ex or my current boyfriend is more abusive. I got mad at my ex once because I saw him checking out a girl in front of me on a camping trip, then in his RV i ripped up a note i gave him, and he said he would continue doing that because he thought i was being unreasonable, so i called him a slut, and in my nightgown he picked me up and dragged me to the door of the rv and pushed me out. I've had a hard time getting over my ex, and so when my current boyfriend (who been nothing but nice and respectful) was irritating me and i wanted him to leave my house he refused (he had also been drinking) and so i packed his clothes for him (he was staying with me a couple of weeks before he started his new job). Well, he got pissed and threw a jewelry box he made me at the wall and sarcastically said "it doesn't look like i'm leaving does it?" he blocked my bedroom door and i tried to move him out of the way so i could open the door and get rid of him, but he just stood there. so i scratched at his arms and tried with all my strength to move him, but he would just push me back onto the bed. another time i wanted him to leave he wouldn't and took my cellphone and keys so i couldn't leave my bedroom either. It brings back a lot of memories because one time i tried to leave my ex's house he did the same and took my keys so i couldn't. my friend ended up coming over and calling the cops so he would let me leave. my ex also got mad at me saying i didn't make him a priority when i was on the phone getting ready to go out for the night and he said i didn't cook his fries enough, or too much. so, he threw my purse and phone and blocked the driveway with his hummer so i couldn't go out that night. my ex would also slam the wall or the kitchen table with pans if he was mad at me, and my current b/f has slammed my car door and doors in my house. i just don't know what to do. my current b/f i think couldn't take it that i'm not completely over my ex, so i do admit to pushing him away when he has been nothing but nice to me. he has apologized and didn't like that. what do i do? who was worse? should i stay?
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reader, Kezzie  +, writes (2 October 2008):
One thing for you to think about is 'how much more is it going to take for him to fly of the handles and really hurt u?' U need to stand up, gain strength and walk away. Take time by your self and live your life. your young enjoy life whilst you can we are here once and only once. The more you let this bloke walk all over you the more he is going to treat you like a door mat.Stand up to this Guy! Deep down inside you know that this isnt right for you and this isnt what you want your life to be like or is ?Never except his alopogises he doesn't mean them and if he really did love you then y would he have treated you like this in the first place.If you dont walk away now things will only get worse and you wuill lose confidence in men completely walk away now, whilst you can.Trust me i know this works. Walk away. Live your life go out have a laugh and one day mister right will come and sweep you right off your feet and that will be the day that you will look back and think why didnt i get the courage before to walk away. You have got all the time in the world, But the time is right now for you to walk away and turn your back on this monster.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2008): The simple answer is "no" you shouldn't stay in any relationship that makes you feel this way.
Unless you like feel the way you feel. Then I would say to go right ahead and stay right were you are.
I know that most of these words will fall on to def ears. I know most women now aday just have to have a man in their, I.E. Boyfriend. But Leave this bloke your with right now and then spend some serious time alone, learning who you are. Your not confident, you are pray, an easy target. In my opinion just about worthless as woman. What good is a woman if she can't stand up for her self? Confidents is Sexy. Inteligents is sexy. Living by your self is even sexier. But this is just me.
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reader, TJscustomcycles +, writes (2 October 2008):
The simple answer is "no" you shouldn't stay in any relationship that makes you feel this way.
Unless you like feel the way you feel. Then I would say to go right ahead and stay right were you are.
I know that most of these words will fall on to def ears. I know most women now aday just have to have a man in their, I.E. Boyfriend. But Leave this bloke your with right now and then spend some serious time alone, learning who you are. Your not confident, you are pray, an easy target. In my opinion just about worthless as woman. What good is a woman if she can't stand up for her self? Confidents is Sexy. Inteligents is sexy. Living by your self is even sexier. But this is just me.
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