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writes: Well, this is a sort of long story. My boyfriend and i have been going out for 2 years, we are 18 and 20. We meet through my older sister and her boyfriend, who are both 21. They started dating at the end of their grade 9 year and dated for 6 year. Just under a week of 6 years, my sister dumped her boyfriend. Now i feel like im in a awkward situation. My boyfriend and i aren't letting this affect us, but its hard. I've been sisters with my sister for 18 years and my boyfriend has bee friend with my sister's now ex for 16 years. This break up came to a huge surprise to everyone. All my sister would say that they were fighting a lot, so it seems like she ran from her problems. I don't know what to do, she is my sister and i know how happy she was with him. I believe there is a 3rd party telling her that the fights aren't worth it. But i life you have to deal with problems and you learn nothing from running away. I have never seen my sister's ex so depressed but trying not to be. My boyfriend and i dont know what to do but we want to see them both happy. I need help.
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reader, camille  +, writes (28 June 2006):
 I'm sorry but there's nothing you can do. Just continue being a sister to your sister and your fella a friend to his friend. If she doesn't want to be with this man, that's her decision, whatever her reason. The only difficulty I can see is that you will be reamining friends with her ex. She may not like it, but as she dumped him, you should be ok. If her ex tries to talk about your sister, just politely tell him, she's your sister and you can't get involved. Don't get sucked into any of it, even via your boyfriend, or then it will become your issue. It's always sad when people break up close to you, but obviously they can't stay together for the sake of their friends. It'll hopefully become easier with time.
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