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writes:My boyfriend thinks i have a low self esteme. i do, but i am trying really hard not to let him see it. but i met his ex girlfriend the other day at a restaraunt on acident, and she is gorgeous, absolutely the most beautiful girl i have ever met. i am nowhere near as pretty as her. im not saying im ugly, im just saying i am an average girl who is not allowed to buy fancy or tight clothes, wear make up, or straighten/curl my hair. i feel like he took a real step down from her to me. and every time i see a pretty girl or him, i want to crawl in a hole with a bag over my head. i dont want to feel or think like this. what am i supposed to do about it? please, please help me
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reader, dirtball +, writes (29 June 2010):
 I'm reminded of a saying I saw on a poster once. "No matter how hot she looks, somebody, somewhere is sick of her shit." He's with you, not her, for a reason. Looks aren't everything. In fact, they can often make a person be very conceited and tough to be around. Be proud of who you are!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010): This gorgeous girl you are on about is his ex, it is YOU that he wants to go out with.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (29 June 2010):
 My husband was married for 8 years before he divorced and met me. His ex was gorgeous too. This past April we celebrated our 35th wedding anniversary, so what does that tell you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010): True beauty lies within my dear. Your bf likes you for who you are. not for how you look. Don't let this bother you, do what makes you feel happy.
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reader, raiders +, writes (29 June 2010):
 you do need to have a little more respect for yourself and stop putting yourself down. She could be real pretty but beauty is only skin deep and you might posses other qualities.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010): OMG i can totally relate to that because I have the same problem....but do you know that even the prettiest girls have issues maybe not of the same as you but different? You should know that looks isn't everything and you shouldn't compare yourself to others. Yeah so she may be very pretty, yes she might have the best hair, the best car, a better everything it seems to you. I have learned that beauty is just a word unless there are deeper feelings to it. I mean she may be all that but she could be a total stuck up, snob, or very conceited person. I mean there must be a good reason why your boyfriend is not with her, right? Why don't you ask your boyfriend what he sees in you? Maybe he sees a pretty girl with a pretty attitude which maybe the other girl lacks? I know he doesn't think he's stepping down for dating you, maybe he was stepping up. It shouldn't matter what she looks like, it matters that he's with you instead. Beauty is inside not outside and those who believe otherwise are shallow, besides they don't last for long. I know because I used to think my boyfriend's ex girlfriend was beautiful until I learned what kind of person she is, and now she's just an average person to me if not to shallow guys out there. Sorry guys, I just meant some people can't see beyond the good looks.
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