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writes:It all started about a year ago when I met this guy online, who lives in another country, I was at the time dating someone else, but the guy online was just a friend for 6 months, so no I wasnt cheating. I did in the end sort of break up with my bf for him, although it was time for that relationship to end anyways. The problem came when I was single and I asked this guy I met on the net to come see me… he kept making excuses etc for 2 months and I thought there must be something wrong with me. We had from early on knowing each other swapped photos and stuff. Anyways after waiting for so long I finally said that I was just going to have to stop this if he didn't tell me why he didn't want to come see me… turns out all those photos were not exactly accurate. In other words he lied and sent me photos from like 5 years ago, and now he is very overweight. Now I am not a really shallow person, but I think we can all agree we have a certain type of man we like, and I'm sorry but I am really fit and active and I don't find fat attractive. But because I liked this guy so much and would have felt terrible for stopping things cause of weight issues I kept up with the online relationship. He has come to see me twice… and I really have tried to get over the weight thing… but now I just can't handle it any more. He’s so sweet and trying to lose weight, but he wants to take our relationship further physically and I really can't handle that. Also the fact that he lied to begin with makes me kinda mad still… I feel like I was cheated into this in a ways cause I fell in love with him thinking he looked completly different. So I don't know what to do… I used to talk to him every day, but now I'm afraid he's going to pick up on what I'm feeling and I hate hurting people. Any help you can give would be great, thanks x
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reader, eltapatio  +, writes (1 December 2008):
ok its online dating here! its common knowledge that the majority of ppl lie or send inaccurate pics! he has lied to you and he dates online. that just doesnt sound good to me. but if you truly love him, wait for him to lose the weight. and since your fit maybe you could help him out:D if true love is wat u feel then i think u should wait for him to lose the weight b4 u break it off.
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reader, taina1980 +, writes (24 November 2008):
lmao! I'm sorry but this is priceless! dump him but say its because he's a liar not cause he's fat... in my opinion your being too nice... & he lied first what's good for the goose babe...
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