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writes:I have met the wonderfull man on the internet , we have spoken on the net, text and telephone for over 3 months. He is away in the USA taking his ill mother for a short holiday, I cannot contact him by phone, although he said he would ring or e mail. I fully understand that he needs to spend time with her, but does he not have 5 minutes to talk to me, he calls me gorgeous, a breath of fresh air, initmated we are to have a weekend together, we have swopped loads of photos, I was a little upset that he said we would be out of contact in the states, I did ring him for the last time before he left and just got voicemail, for which unfortunately I got a little upset with and said I just wanted to speak to him, I have apologised in text and e mail for being off with him, but truly did not mean to.............. I worry he might not contact me again, I have just put my foot in it and did not mean to atall to leave an off message....
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (25 November 2008):
 Okay, stop panicking. You've done whatever damage you're going to do, the only thing you can do is wait to see if he noticed. It's possible that he's so busy with his trip and tending to his mother that your message was missed or deleted.
So stop sending emails or texts right now. Remember, you two aren't boyfriend/girlfriend just yet, you haven't met in person, so your expectations may be a bit higher than his. He's complimented you nicely but it doesn't sound like he's said "drop everything and be my bride!"
At this point, he doesn't really have to account for himself to you, remember that, and also remember that clinginess usually backfires.
I'd stop thinking about him, fuming, or worrying anymore. You're working yourself into a state and that's just not sensible! Stay calm, cool and collected and behave as if you've done nothing wrong when (if?) he gets back in touch. Just don't belabor it and do not under any circumstances shout at him for not keeping in touch with you. My family is lucky to get a postcard from me when I'm on holiday, let alone an email or phone call.
Deep breaths, calm, relax. It's all out of your hands now, so try to sit back and practice serenity.
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