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writes:I met a guy on Facebook two weeks ago. I sent him friend request and he accepted me. after that he messaged me saying he wanted to say hi and saying I am beautiful. after wards we kept chatting and he gave me his number and he says I can call him whenever I can. after that we were calling each other and loved talking to me that's what he told me. after a week he kept talking to me and I said why did you contacted me on Facebook. and he said I saw your pictures and I liked you. and I said so do u want to be my friend or what? and he said I wanted us to be more than friends. after that we said goodnight and he sounded kind of cold about the whole asking situation. its been five days since then and I haven't heard from him. one thing I forgot though I told him that I missed him a couple days from that. do you think that scared him. please tell me why he contacted me in the first place and now he is not contacting me no text no calls . what should I say if he contacts me again in case. I do see him in facebook changing his pics and posting stuff. I mean its not like he doesn't have time for me. please let me know is he not interested or telling him I missed him made him run away do u think he will cantact me in the future?
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (2 August 2013):
 I agree with the other answers. I'd like to add that am a bit concerned that you seem to have posted this question two (or three?) times now. I am a bit concerned that you are getting obsessed or caught up in a fantasy about this guy. He's just a random stranger, really he's not that special a guy for you to be spending so much time in angst over.
I agree with all that WiseOwlE writes, but also gently suggest that you step away from Facebook for a while. Don't log in for a few days. The weekend is coming up; make some plans to spend time with friends and family, go for a swim, a walk, a bike ride, go to the cinema. Whatever. Give yourself a bit of space from this and hopefully you'll be able to assess what is going on (or not going on) with better perspective.
All the best. x
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reader, answerfromtheheart +, writes (2 August 2013):
 Hi, I agree with WiseOwelE, you can't get all "gaga" over a guy you didn't even meet in person. And for the future if a guy genuinely likes you, telling him you miss him will never make him run away. But please remember that guys are much slower on the whole emotional thing and until they are ready to tell you how they feel, you need to keep your feelings under control. Experiencing feelings is one thing, but talking about them is another. Facebook has become a very easy pick up bar for guys. He contacted you because you are attractive, don't think that he saw your picture, fell in love and wants to marry you. It's not how male brain works. WiseOwelE will probably back me up on that.Don't let this incident hurt your self esteem either. Don't think that you did something bad, just learn from it, be more restrained, and value yourself too.You were honest, you told him how you felt, he shut you down, so lift your chin high and walk away. WiseOwelE's damage control strategy is perfect. Follow it. If he is a decent guy, it will help.Good luck.Let us know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2013): Telling some guy you recently met on Facebook you "miss him," is sort of needy.
He may find you attractive; but you aren't the only female he is "friending." He thinks you're cute, that isn't enough to get all gaga over.
Keep it under control. Get a grip, Missy! You hardly know the dude, and you're acting like it's a relationship already. He chatted with you casually, and offered a phone number. That's just an introduction, not a marriage proposal. Calm down.
WiseOwelE is going to give a little tough love here.
You need to keep your options open. Let him do the chasing.
Do not let any strange guy think you're clingy, or easy pickings. Value yourself more than that. You have to find out what type of guy he really is, before you let down your hair. Come down out of the clouds!
When he gets back to you, delay any response. Take your time getting back to him. You have to erase a little damage; because he thinks he's got you where he wants you.
Answer too quickly, and you'll come off as too eager. He'll tag you a "chicken-head." You're smarter than he thinks.
Make him prove to you if he's just interested in "hit and run;" or if he genuinely likes you.
If you don't mind being a one-night-stand,then he'll hit it; and that's going to be the last you'll ever see or hear from him. He's got plenty of girls to chose from.
If you do get to meet this guy, keep it cool and casual.I don't recommend getting too cozy too soon; he already thinks you're cuckoo.
Trust my advice on this. I'm giving you a little damage control, and helping you get a better handle on this.
I want you to come out the winner, not the victim of a player.
Let him call or text you. Answer him the next day. You were busy and it's nice to hear him from him again. You don't miss him. Please don't say that until you know this guy better.
He's testing to see just how badly you miss him.
If you come off clingy and desperate, he'll think you're an easy mark. He'll hit it; but dismiss you as dating or girlfriend material.
Please let me know how things turn out.
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