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anonymous
writes:Hi,I met a guy at the weekend in the local disco, I got chatting to him and we ended up kissing. We danced and kissed all night in the disco and swapped numbers at the end of the night. He text when he got home to let me know he was home and asked was I home ok.. I text back the next morning explaining I was already sleeping when he had text. He replied saying he wasnt feeling the best and was dreading gettin up out of his bed and did I want to join him? I replied saying that that was a proposition and a half for early on a sunday morning.. but that he did sound in need of some tlc which i would provide if he would let me, he said that he would let me alright and that I could do anything I wanted to him. I said that was always good to know it might be needed in the future and asked what he had planned for the day ahead. He replied telling me.. but no word since. Ive liked him for ages and dont want to seem desperate so please help? Do you think I stand a chance?? any advice??
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (28 August 2007):
 Sort of sounds like he was looking for a fling and nothing more. But if you want to figure it out, just text him or call him and ask him out for coffee, or lunch (something that doesn't involve alchohol, or potential sex). If he makes excuses, avoids you, doesn't respond or counter-invites you over for something that sounds more intimate (like joining him in his bed for tlc) then you've got your answer. Fling guy. Not relationship guy. Men go through phases and he may just be in a phase right now where he's healing from a bad break up and is just not looking for anything serious. Take his cue though and don't try to pursue anything with him unless you want to be one of his many one-night stands. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2007): Hi babe, he obviously woke up with the morning 'horn' and was looking for some sexy texting to turn him on. You responded to it now you haven't heard anything since - take it from one who knows - some men just want a few saucy text messages and a bit fun and that's it (been there, done that!). Perhaps you just had a good night together in the club and now he has lost interest in the cold light of day (that's no reflection on you, by the way, he is probably just a young lad not looking to get too involved). I'm taking it that you sent him a text back after his last one telling you what he was doing that day? If so, and he didn't respond, then you must stay away from the local disco for one week (assuming you go there most weekends?) and then turn up the following weekend looking spectacular. If he is there, look friendly, smiling, happy, if he approaches you be realy nice but do not mention what happened or ask why he didn't return your text messages. But still be flirty and friendly, just don't go giving him a good time after you've had a few drinks. If you really like him, then it's worth remembering that men like a challenge, so be flirty and friendly but don't 'give it up'. Good luck babe! (wish we had a follow up on these things, love to know what happens next time you see him!) x
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reader, bemused  +, writes (28 August 2007):
 Hi hun.I hate to say that it might just be 'one of those things'. The atmosphere in a bar or disco is sex charged, alcohol is rampant and you are in your twenties so I am not going to make judgements on you here. I would not make a judgement on you and not on him. That would be a double standard. You say you have liked him for ages. I guess I was wondering how you knew him. This does not not sound really promising but it does not sound hopeless either. If I were you I would draw back from him and see if he steps forward to see you in a deeper light. If sex is all he wanted you will not hear from him again or you may hear from him when he has had one two many. Desist from giving him to him if he contacts you. Make him look for you. Insist that he take an interest in the person you are. Realize that he may not be interested in you in that way and you may have to put this down to a learning experience.
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