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writes:How to get this guy to notice/like me or ask me out? I’m going to have to explain this whole situation so you can kind of get into my shoes a bit and give me some advice.I was out at a gig in my college with my friend the other night and we were both quite drunk. Well...everyone was. Anyway, afterwards, we were looking around for some people to share a taxi in to the city with, to save money since we are poor students. We found two random guys (I will call them A and S) inside from our college who were not with each other but joined us anyway and then outside, one of them grabbed this other guy who was with his own friends and doesn’t go to our college (I'll call him C). The five of us ended up in the taxi together anyway.When we got into the city, we all headed to this club that myself and my friend were in last week. But it was 20+ that night and my friend is 18 (I’m 17 but my ID says 24) and the guys were all over 20. So the guys brought us to this pub/club down the road. At some point in the night, my friend and the other two guys made a plan to set me up with C, I didn’t know this until the next day when my friend told me.While we were in the pub/club, my friend went off somewhere else (in the building) with S and left me with the other two guys. I danced with them for a while and then I realised that I really liked C. Anyway, since we were all dancing, everyone was getting really hot so C took off his shirt (leaving his t-shirt on underneath!). We were still dancing and he was just holding the shirt, so I decided to put it on. He buttoned it up a bit for me and rolled up the sleeves. Later on, when he got a cigarette out of his shirt pocket (that was still on me), I couldn’t hear him when he asked me to get it for him so he reached in and got it, but he made sure not to feel me up or anything. (At the end of the night, when we got outside I had to give him back the shirt because it was really cold.)When we were heading home, A left and the rest of us were invited back to stay in C's house. S and my friend said yes and I really wanted to too but I was being sensible. I was supposed to be in my friend’s house at around 1am, not wandering the city at 3 or 4. And if it was possible to get back to my friend’s house early the next morning I would have definitely gone back, but I would have had to pay for a very expensive taxi journey that I couldn’t afford. So we just got the bus home instead.The next morning we found A on Facebook and added him. He seemed genuinely happy to hear from us. We looked for absolutely ages but couldn’t find the other two. However, last night I found C (through some very good detective work) and we both added him too.My problem is that I tend to “lead guys on” according to my friend and then just kind of kick them aside, it happened last week too with another guy. I thought he didn’t like me and vice-versa but the opposite was true (according to his friend, but I still think he wasn’t interested).I am hoping I didn’t do this to C but he just turned 21 and when he found out I was 17 he was kind of like “WHAT??” so I don’t think he is into me at all and if he had been, he isn’t now.So I am just wondering how I could get him to be interested in me and subtly hint that, basically, I want him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2011): If he isnt interested cos of your age im sorry but theres pretty much nothing you can do. im 19 and my boyfriend just turned 21 and he doesnt care in the slightest, but i know some guys dont like age gaps especially while they are young- and especially with you being so very young too. I have friends thsat dont even mind age gaps but will not go under 18. they dont like the fact of themselves being legal adults and her not... or them being legally allowed to drink in a pub + her having to stay home or be drinking illegally.
I guess you just have to outright ask him and see what he thinks
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks :)
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reader, ..  +, writes (1 March 2011):
Ahh, I've had this problem in reverse! I met a guy at our ball. He's 20, I'm 17. Apparently he told my friend he was 'too old for me', but he was texting and calling me for weeks after I'd made it clear I wasn't interested.
I think, the best thing to do is drop off the lines of contact for a while and do some sleuthing around. Find out (without asking, ie. check his FB posts) if he's going out some time and 'casually' meet up with him. The most important thing is not to act too interested, because that will turn him off. Showing him you have your own life will make him think more highly of you.
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