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*wnthimback
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years now. We have a 2 year old son and have been living together for 2 1/2 years. For awhile it felt like we weren't in love. I moved out this past weekend and now I'm missing him like crazy. I can't stand being away from him and I think he doesn't have feelings for me. He says he still loves me but he needs time to clear his head. He was never the emotional guy. I turned to another man (emotionally) who was there for me. My boyfriend found out about this and is very hurt and upset. He is coming over tonight to see our son and to talk. Please help!! I know I messed up, but I love him and I want my family back together!
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reader, honey-bee +, writes (16 June 2010):
 I think you should talk things over properly when he comes over. The fact that you're still calling him your boyfriend suggests to me you still want him to be just that. Your boyfriend.
I think that he needs to understand that you turned to another man while you were on a break and you deeply regret it and that you didn't want it to affect your relationship. You were probably feeling very vulnerable and over-emotional.
Your boyfriend, if he really loves you, should understand that when you were on that break, you still thought about him and hopefully both of you have realised how much you missed eachother and that you should be together.
Five years is a long, long time and if you weren't really in love you wouldn't have lasted that long. Remind your boyfriend that your son is very important in this too, and that you think you should give your family another chance.
I wish you luck with your boyfriend, but urge you to be honest with him from now on as I'm sure your relationship will benefit from it in the long run.
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