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writes:So I have had this boyfriend for about 5 months now an we are so happy an so in love, we are always talking about how we are goin to be together forever I would never cheat on him, or so I thought. This is this guy Ill call him Joe (not his real name though) and well I was in love with Joe for about 6 years, nothing ever came out of it seeing how he is my brother's best friend an all.That is until yesterday. Lately my brother has been off in his own little world with his girlfriend an Joe an him havent been spending alot of time together they barly talk even, for some reason, me an joe have gotten very close we talk almost everyday an we see eachother a few times a week. well yesterday I picked him up to give him an one of his friends a ride somewhere it started snowing pretty hard, an I didnt want to drive in the snow, so Joe drove me home an ended up spending the night an it was only a few months ago I had gotten over joe, but he was over an we were watching movies an somehow we ended up kissing. only a few moments later my boyfriend called an we stoped, back off each other a bit, only 5 mins later it felt like i didnt have a boyfriend an we started flirting more, well we ending up haveing sex twice an now I cant even look my boyfriend in the eye u would never cheat on him and I dont know why I did, In some ways I think it was to find out if I was over my first love or not and now more then ever I really dont know, also I am not just afraid of my boyfriend finding out but of my brother because they got to hang out today an things are back to normal and if my brother finds out his best friend slept with his little sister then things arent goin to be good my brother is going to hate Joe an I honestly dont know what to do,please help me out
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2008): Right. Well what really do expect us to say? You say you love your boyfriend, but spend time with your ex and spread your legs for him an instant not even having the excuse of being drunk or just having been in a fight with your friend.
You are either a slut or incredibly stupid or you just don't care as much for your BF as you want us to believe.
Simple fact, if you really care about someone you do NOT cheat on them. Anger and alcohol can make you loose your common sense but you give neither of these as an excuse.
So ask yourselve honestly if you really like this guy or just want to have a boyfriend and be in love. Do you love him or are in you in love with being in love.
If you really do love your BF you got to ask yourselve why you so easily cheated on him, there might be various reasons, a lack of morals, not having the guts to say no, nymphomania, OR perhaps you want to unconciously destroy the relationship.
Whatever your reasons, best examine them closely because if you don't it will happen again and again and when he finds out you could very well loose him.
Did you use condoms? What if your flirt had given you a disease, how were you going to explain that to your BF?
No, you did something really stupid and will do so again if you are not honest with yourselve. The crap about wondering if you were over the guy you slept with is just self delusion. You do NOT need to sleep with someone to see if you are over them, in fact sleeping with them pretty much says you are NOT over him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): tell your boyfriend...you deserve whatever you get. no offence but thats just plain wrong. your boyfriends an absolute saint and probably dumb if he forgives you. but tell him, he deserves to know...
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reader, Chris060690 +, writes (28 February 2008):
well what u did was bad and u cheated on someone but you already did it if i was you i would take some time and see whats going on youcant stay with one then later have feelings for someone else think what you want and if you think you dont really like your boyfriend then dont be with him if youre so in love you wouldnt have done that think what you want then take actions
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