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writes:I guy I had a crush on when I was in high school just got back from two years in Australia. When I saw him again after so long I just kept thinking, "I just might have to marry this man." Problem, I'm terribly shy and clam up like a shell when talking to men I like. Not only that, he's leaving on Sunday once again for a job in another state. I'm trying to figure out how I can show him my interest without (a) freaking him and/or myself out and (b) give myself a chance at marrying a guy that will be away for another 4 months or so surrounded by other girls. I know it's crazy to talk about marriage when we hardly knew each other during our high school years but, well, it's just how things are.
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reader, Embarr +, writes (3 March 2008):
Embarr is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well, I didn't come right out and voice my interest but I think all is well. It was nearing the end of church and I didn't think I'd get the chance to speak to him. I was walking back towards the building though and he came right out. I smiled and he initiated a conversation! He even asked me what I was doing for my summer before I could ask him what he was doing for his so I'm feeling more confident that I may have a chance to spend time with him when he returns. Thanks for the advice everyone!
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (29 February 2008):
 I think you should be blunt in so far as you speak from the heart; sit him down, speak your heart and see how he reacts...it might then be appropiate for the hug but I would refrain from that until you have said your piece...
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reader, Embarr +, writes (29 February 2008):
Embarr is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi, this is the original poster of the question. I'm still not quite sure what to say or if to say anything. Should I be blunt? I've had this urge to hug him ever since I saw him again. Would he freak out if I did this?
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (28 February 2008):
It's now or never and I think that if you dont at least say something then you are always going to regret it. The biggest motivation should be that if you dont say something now he may well never know how you feel.
Go with what LJ says but you might not want to mention marriage at this stage. Just tell him from the heart how much he means too you how you feel about him. At least that way, come what may, you can say you tried and have been true to yourself and how you feel...let us know how it goes...good luck :).
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): Humans are funny creatures, we have so much power within but mostly our fear tends to over shadow our true-selves. Remember the only way to have no regrets is to follow your heart! It speaks and is usually right on, but we must start allowing it to guide us. Don't let life pass you by! We have such a short time here in this place and to enjoy it you have to live fully. No more hiding! Don't be shy, let love in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): Look honey, I know its extremely hard when your shy, but if you feel this way about him then you need to just tell him. Go up to him (like they even sometimes do in movies) and tell him you wanna talk to him. Maybe arrange to meet up for a coffee (or do it there and then) and get straight to the point. Tell him you've loved him since high school, and that you just wanted him to know that your feelings for him are still strong. Let him know that you dont want to pressure him, but just want him to know how you feel. Honestly, I really hope you do let him know because I'd hate to think you love him so much but he just has no idea and then goes to another state! Time is short, so tell him. Forget your shyness. Just tell him honey. You never know, he might even feel the same way. Good luck honey, I'll be thinking about you on sunday. Good luck! :]
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