A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Well my boyfriend has always been a big flirt and one day him and my bestestfriend were flirting with eachother even the people around us noticed and i felt embarrased because i didnt do nun about it ,it was constanly happening all the time non stop they would even hang out together so confronted him about it and he said he was deeply in love with me but i didnt know who to believe so one i got so tired that i got extremely drunk and went to my boyfriends bestfriends house next thing i know i slept with him .then he found out and it completely changed him i feel so bad because i love him so much so my question is what can i do to get him back?
View related questions:
drunk, flirt Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (12 April 2011):
In what way have you changed so that your boyfriend can now trust you and have a reason to take you back? Do you even have a good understanding why you cheated, and how your behaviour is related to his behaviour? You probably don't. You sound insecure. You sound like you felt bad about your boyfriend's flirting, but didn't have the self worth or confidence or maturity to speak your mind or stand up for yourself, so you did something that would hurt him, like he was hurting you. Your task out of all of this is to develop your self respect and ability to express your feelings by talking about things, rather than reacting. This can take a long time, and by the time you have accomplished this, you will probably want a boyfriend who doesn't disrespect you by flirting with your friends. As for getting him back, the only think you can do is talk to him, tell him how you feel, and what you want, and be honest. Good luck.
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2011): He flirted with someone else, so you slept with someone else?
Wow. I don't know. That's a tough one. It's like any other kind of cheating I guess. Take full responsibility for it, say you want to work on yourself and the relationship and try to change the circumstances that led up to it. And beg.
...............................
|
