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writes:Ugh. This is awful. And a long one. Sorry, but I've been desperate to vent to people who won't spread this around my sixth formThere's this guy on the badminton team at school who is the year above me and we've known each other for five years, and over the past year since my 'best friend' (attention-grabbing backstabber) has left, we've become very close friends and we just compliment each other so well with our personalities.Problem is; he has a girlfriend and I feel like an absolute piece of work for liking him.In my imagination he likes me back although knowing me I'm probably wrong and he's just a really lovely person. But: (bit of a story coming up, feel free to jump to the second to last paragraph if I haven't bored you too much already!) we are both captains of the badminton team (girls and boys resepctively) and we've given the school many years of trophies so we got to go on an 8 hour road trip to the National finals with the younger boys team, even though we weren't playing :) We were 'team managers', lol.Anyway, we were chatting nearly the whole trip and enjoying banter with the team and I could've SWORN on my life there was some sort of flirting. On the ride back he joked when we shared a creme egg 'do you finger, or lick?' and there was some close proximity eye contact throughout the trip.We hung around together for literally the whole trip and I know that the team we were with was three years below us (I'm 17, he's 18) so it's probably unlikely he would hang out with them over me, but he didn't HAVE to - did he? We're just so comfortable together, but I'm a little scared I'm 'the girl next door' who's just someone he's happy to be around with.And when I got a phone call about a family friend injured in Afghanistan he was ever so lovely and when we were sitting on the bleachers watching the team play he gave me a really long, lovely hug and I was leaning against his chest for a good five minute with his head resting ontop of my, and I'm certain he gave the top of my head a little kiss. Do close friends kiss one another on the top of the head? I've honestly no clue and I've no idea if I'm reading too much into this or not.Also, we were planning to go to the pool early on the day of the tournament without the rest of the team so we could have a quiet twenty minutes or so, but unfortunately his lil' roomie caught him sneaking out so he came too. When he wasn't listening we were planning a mock homicde, lol :P I went into the pool room after the two of them had got into the jacuzzi and I was in my bikini; his lil' roomie stared like he'd never seen anything like it before (because he probably hadn't lol, he's only 14) and the guy I like did a playful whoop.Speaking of roomies, when we were sorting out who was in what room, the younger boys were joking about the two of us sharing a room since we were closer in age and he nudged me saying 'Yeah, roomie?' kinda playfully.I know this is probably far too much detail, but I just really need to vent!I'm not asking for tips on how to steal him as this would come back to bite me in one - or both - of two ways; 1st. I'd be a boyfriend stealer, and I couldn't live with myself knowing that I'm a prize bi*ch 2nd. If he DID happen to cheat/leave his girlfriend for me, then it would probably happen to me too. (Although he's such a moral guy I very much doubt he'd do this. But the point still stands)Basically, in a very long-winded, roundabout sort of way I'm asking HOW ON EARTH do I keep myself under wraps and stay patient without going insane? And am I reading this completely the wrong way when I hope that he likes me? It's just that he's complained about his girlfriend a fair bit and a girl can dream . .
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reader, weepingwillow123  +, writes (4 April 2011):
First and foremost, you do not want to be a boyfriend stealer. One day you may be in her shoes and you'll realize how much it hurts. Tell him that you like him and that you're interested and you feel like he is to. If he agrees that is when you tell him you've got standards and dating a boy who's already seeing another girl exclusively is simply not something you are willing to do. However, you need to question his actions. If he is with you like this while he's exclusive with this other girl, what keeps him from doing the exact same thing to you? Do you really want him? Or is this just an infatuation where you're only seeing his hunky qualities? Just really think about it.
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