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writes:I have got myself into a situation at work with a guy. We have been flirting for about 2 years, he is always making sexual comments, we have never been out together but we get on, he has just never asked me out, Last year he told me we wanted different things when he just wanted a bit of fun. So I just assumed we were then friends, but over the last five months we have been getting on really well, again a lot of flirting, About a month ago we kissed (fully on), he sent me a text saying he enjoyed it and would love to do it again, the biggest mistake I made was letting it happen at work, nothing has happened since then, Again just the flirting and looks, I am taking it that he just as before wants a bit of fun, I really really like him and don't want to lose our conversations (he is the only person that really speaks to me a work) and i did enjoy kissing him but i do want more, I am a virgin and I think he can tell that, I mean if he was that interested he would have asked me out by now, right. So what can I do now, I don't want there to be an atmosphere every time we see each other, how do I tell him I am not into just fun but I want us to remain friends or at least pretend as I don't want everyone finding out how silly I have been.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): Some people do just like flirting.
Pity he's the only person who talks to you, it sounds like you could do with branching out and making some friends, to get things into perspective.
If he hasn't asked you out in all this time, even after you kissed, it doesn't look like he will. You could always ask him, and see if he takes you nice places. Don't let it all be about kissing and sex. See whether he can treat you right first.
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reader, Specter  +, writes (11 April 2009):
Am spectre and I know why he didn't ask am only 13 but I know what's happening he is afraid to ask like I was with my first gf and I only had 5 and am still having trouble he is frighten that your going to say no so you should try to ask him out or maybe he doesn't want to get reject. In the past it might have happen to him so you start out first and he maybe come out of of the shell. Good luck :))
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (11 April 2009):
Just tell him you don't really want rumours about you at work so would he mind not telling anyone that the kiss happened. He should be able to tell from your tone that this means nothing more is going to happen.
After that, you really don't need to tell him where you stand. Men really aren't the same as us girls when it comes to needing to define relationships.
Just carry on flirting and being friendly but just don't let any more kissing happen and make sure you show with your actions that it is just friendly flirting to brighten up your day.
Try and get over him by going out with your friends outside of work and looking at other guys till you find someone who cares about you and is willing to give you the relationship you deserve.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Niema.x  +, writes (11 April 2009):
 You haven't been silly at all , you've had an attraction and you've acted upon it . I mean relationships have to start somewhere . Anyway , just text him maybe , ask him if he still just wants fun or if he wants to take it further . Be sneaky about it ask him to go for dinner sometime talk to him and then you can be sure xxxx
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