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writes: I am married for 22 years. Run my own business. Of late I am finding that I am constantly flirting with this particular male colleague and its getting more sexual in nature. He is very good looking, 13 years younger and married. He has played along with me so far. I have had erotic dreams about him and have shared them with him on a number of occasions and he seem to like it. We constantly text each other on a sexual nature and of late i am constantly wondering what it would be like to have sex with him. I am worried that i may go down the path of no return and hurt my marriage. My husband has benefited from this because when we have sex, i imagine its with my colleague and i become rather aggressive and vocal.
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reader, Miss_confused87  +, writes (20 March 2011):
I am in almost the exact same situation- with the exception that we have now slept together. I can honestly say it was a big mistake. We are both married which has made things even more complicated. I now can't stop thinking of my work colleague. Please don't cross that line as there is really no way back. I didn't think things would change as much but they have. Have the fantasies but do not act on them - it only leads to hurt and confusion. Stay strong for the sake if your husband and don't make the same mistakes as me. If you want to understand more view the o ly question I have asked on here. Take care. X
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2011): wow...I have been in the exact same situation...I have lost touch with my husband but becaue of kids am sticking it out...I also met someone I was so attracted to..sexual text exchange etc...his girl left him once she found out he was texting me in this way...it became an emotional affair..nothing physical at all but she left him..and he has not let me forget since!!...he in turn blamed me for not being centered enough to control the urge despite his contant private contact and seductive advances...at the end of day I discovered that altho the temptation to have one innocent fling or a one-time curiosity filler seems harmless...if you are a normal woman with emotions and feelings...you run the risk of getting emotionally attached...worse of course...you run the risk of ruining his marriage and family and that is not worth the short term pleasure...and if he ends up being a jerk like my fling..he will turn in around and blame the whole thing on you...trust me..it is damaging on more levels than you can even imagine...it will just bring long-term misery...trust me..I am living the long-term misery of it now.
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reader, Katrina 777  +, writes (15 March 2011):
You know, people do fall in love or get passionate. That's more like a fact, rather than your choise. You are sencible person and are able not to turn your relation with a colleague into a silly mess, - well, then don't. It's manageable for you on this stage. But you are not able to stop thinking about it and don't seem to have much time and space in life for that sort of alisys to make youself "a perfect girl". May be it does not work like that in your family, but you could try to make a loving game with husband a bit wider and longer than it used to be. It certainly exists, but if it's only the most intimate moments when you show up to be more passionate, then you don't make a full use of the forces and spells you've discovered in yourself. Go on and make youself more attractive for him in ways like voice connotations, silent looks, all what you enjoy about yourself now (but not all together at once). The energy moving inside you needs to find a positive exit.
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reader, Just simply me  +, writes (12 March 2011):
I'm sorry! But.., how do u feel that ur husband is benifiting !!? U r thinking of another man while making love to your husband!!! Call me crazy! But.., that's horible !! And think how that would make ur husband feel? Or even worse.., what if he's doing the same thing to u? How would that make u feel? And u really need to think of all the people involved before u find yourself in a position that u never intended for yourself or the others involved. Perhaps both of your spouse's! And any children on both sides.
If u r not truly happy and have fallen out of love with ur husband. Try to focus on those reason's and issues 1st. Maybe u can respark that fire and flame with your own husband . Instead of possibly ruining someone else's marriage.
Good luck , & best wishes to u sweetie;)
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reader, jbdream3 +, writes (27 February 2011):
 Are you happily married to your husband? Even though, whether you are happily married to him or not, it still is no excuse to think about cheating on him or what it would be like if you were to cheat on him with this guy you are talking about. Plus, from what you are saying you both are always text messaging each other back and forth when all it is is sexual messages you are sending one another. So you need to think about if you were to commit adultery with this guy, what if it was just a physical attraction but nothing romantic about it or no feelings of love were involved with the two of you? Have you ever thought about that scenario? What about if your husband were to find out about you having an affair with this guy behind his back and he was so hurt, which you couldn't blame him for feeling that way of course, that he divorced you and you found out that this affair with this guy was not what you pictured and you discovered it was just infatuation and that you learned that you still loved your husband, but your husband doesn't want anything to do with you and decides to leave you because of some immature adulterous affair with a guy who is 13 years younger than you are? I suggest you really think about what you would be getting yourself into if you were to make a mistake like that because you may very well be sorry you did it. Also, I would advise you too stay away from this guy and tell him that you think he's very nice, but you are a married woman and you need to respect your husband. I really can't judge because I don't know your situation with your husband. Also, I see your age group is between 51 and 59 and I find that rather interesting because everything that I am telling you, I'm sure at whatever age you are right now, since it's between the ages that I see with you, I would think you are smart enough to understand what the consequences would be if you were to cheat on your husband with this guy anyway.
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