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*orah 19
writes:Dear Cupid , i will start sayin that i dated a guy when i was 19 and i loved him so much he cheated on me alot but whenever he needed i was always there , i come from a very strict family ,, ma bf was about to go to the army but cuz i have the american passport he could marry me and not enter the army so i did because i love him ... i was just 19 and i married him without tellin ma family so its all still a secret .. i thought if i married him and took that big risk because if ma family found out they will kill me ..he will stop cheatin but he didnt stop he hurted me alot sleepin around ..hitting me ... but then something big happened and he entered the military and he changed , and i know that he loves me but i cant forget anything iam always suspicous thats he is doing something ... so how can i forget ??? and btw he never confessed that he cheated on me maybe thats why i cant trust him .. i dont know what to do and i cant tell ma family cuz they will kill me pls helpp me tell me how to forget???????
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reader, Norah 19 +, writes (17 January 2010):
Norah 19 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank u so much i think he used me just to get out of army
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reader, veronika  +, writes (16 January 2010):
 Are you sure he loves you? His actions say otherwise. If he loved you and wanted to be your husband, he'd stay faithful and respect you. But from what I gather, he cheats on you and hits you. That's not what a loving partner does.
Getting married doesn't solve any issues, you still have the same issues you had before you were married.
You don't forget, you try to work through the issues. If you really want to try and make it work, I would suggests marriage counselling. Make sure you're both on the same page. Make sure you both know what you want. Did he want to get married, or was it just you? Perhaps he wasn't ready for that kind of commitment?
I know it's a cliche, but I think you two need to have a really serious talk about this.
After you've worked through the mess of your marriage, perhaps then you could work on telling your family...
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