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anonymous
writes: I have a dilemma, I am in a very loving relationship and have been for 5 years now.A few days ago I came home to find my bf in bed with some one else.When he saw me standing there in shock he moved and I realised it was actually another man, my initial shock wore off and I found myself aroused.I climbed in to bed with them and had an amazing time, but now I feel so guilty and jealous and a whole load of other things I cant work out.My bf said that it was the first time anything like that had happened but im not sure I can believe him, I have told him it was a mistake and he agrees but the other man is blackmailing us because he wants a repeat performance, what do I do?if this gets out it will ruin both mine and my bf's careers as we are both in high profile jobs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2007): first of all are u not bothered ur fella was gonna cheet on u if u wernt there? are u sure hes not gay? has he done it before!u should worry bout a job! stand up to the guy and say look, tell ppl no one is going to belive u! and if this guy does say it to people then tell people hes lying! and make him feel small like coments like " u wish "
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reader, smelenpoo +, writes (7 April 2007):
I think that your jobs should be the least of your worries right now...You have serious relationship issues to discuss with eachother. First of all, as far as I am concerned, what your boyfriend did is cheat on you. You did however react to this in a way your boyfriend did not expect, which is inevitably going to send mixed messages between the two of you. You need to sit down and talk this through...openly.And as for the third party here, you should not agree to any sexual act you are not comfortable with so you should confront him also and tell him your true feelings about the situation. When you say you are both in high profile jobs I presume you work for the same company or something? In the public eye? Some huge issues would obviously arise if what happened did come out, but think about you and your relationship for now...cross that bridge if you come to it. I hope this helps in someway xxx
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