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writes:this has nothing to do with any of my other questions.. its just diff. drama.. and im sorry its long!okay welll my dad got married a month ago to a really nice women.. all she talked about was her 2 kids.. lets say danny and andrew.. well ones 14 (my age) and another 10 .. well they dont live here with us .. they live only like 30 min. away though.. well i met them of coarse many many times.. they come on weekends and stay and they come on breaks.. well danny( the one thats my age).. likes to play sports and skatebourd (like me).. and last friday night.. dana(step mom) told me i had to babysit andrew.. but i was okay with it bcuz we had funn.. soo anyways.. andrew,danny and I were watching a movie in the living room .. but andrew was falling asleep so i turned the movie off and put him in bed.. i went to my room not even caring about danny.. so at about 11 .. i was talking to one of my friends..and danny comes into my room and asks to stay in there cuz he got boredd.... and i said yea cuz i didnt really care or not.. well he puts in the movie the hangover(my favorite movie) bcuz he knows i like it and asks to sit on my bed and watch it too .. i said yes (not knowing what he was even doing) well after about an hour.. he say he "was cold" and gets under the blanket with me and starts making out with me were about to get farther but we heard the garage door opening so he got up fst and ran to his and andrews room.. without knowing what to do i just acted like i was aslepp and hit under the blanket.. well the enext mornigg i was woken up by danny who was kissing my neck asking me to have sex with him.. i said hell no because thats disgusting for someone my age to do this!! and i said the farthest id ever go until i was 18 was making out ..and he said okayy.. so now we make out on a regular basis and i know its wrong but i kinda like him.. what do i do?! and if your someone to judge then dont give me a reply.. but if your not judging in anyway possible then plz help me!:(
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reader, serena0427 +, writes (9 July 2014):
I totally get you girl! My step brother and I were playing a t/d game once and we had to make out. We took out slow at first. As the game continued we got heaver. We didn't go further than making out though. I agree we are to young for sex sooo don't do that! It's okay because you are not related and are the same age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2011): Sure you two are not biological but yes it is wrong and taboo. You are all thrown together as a family! Your father married Danny's mother for a reason, they were in love. Do you think they would appreciate that their kids are doing the nasty in their home, because eventually the kissing will lead to that no matter how hard you try to fight it, then you will live with regrets. Also as you and Danny become more emotionally entangled in this relationship are you prepared to handle it when he brings Jane over to meet mum? Think about the family drama then. Put an end to this now for the sake of your family's stability. There are so many fish in the sea and you are so young.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2011): I think you made a good decision about not having intercourse at your age, so I would not worry about the making out part. If you stop and think about it making out with your step brother was fun, exciting and it felt good. How convenient to have a boy handy that you can make out with whenever you want! I think the two of you should be less inhibited, explore different ways of making out and enjoying one another in an uninhibited manner and let yourselves be free and have fun. I also think it is important to talk to him while you are making out and let him know how you feel about all sorts of things like everything from seeing him naked to french kissing him. If it feels good and you like it let him know, and he should do the same for you. I believe as a society we focus too much on trying to oppress natural feelings and controlling the thoughts and actions of others. If you two are having fun and enjoying what you are doing and enjoying one another then don't worry about what anyone else has to say, as it isn't their business, but like I said, good choice on not having intercourse. That is where you need to draw the line responsibly and wait until you are older.
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reader, Isegrimm  +, writes (2 January 2011):
Stepsiblings are not blood related there is nothing wrong with such a relationship and anyone who says so is an idiot.
Why are Americans so stupid when it comes to this sutiation don´t they know about what INCEST really means?
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reader, steph007  +, writes (23 December 2010):
Personally I do not find it wrong, but your family (or families) would be indignant by your activity. So, you should be at least very careful. And that is also important: never tell it any "good or best friends". They will misuse your naivety. Finally, earlier or later both of you should find somebody else for learning making out. In other words: this making-out with your step brother should be exciting only temporally.
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (23 December 2010):
Its not wrong for you to like him, its perfectly natural to feel that way. Strong feelings of love, romantic feelings, and feelings of attraction often occur between step brothers and sisters, cousins, and other relationships where there is a lot of closeness, like family friends who have kids the same age. That doesn't make it a good idea to pursue some kind of romantic relationship with people in this situation though.You have a choice between developing your love as friends and step-brother and step-sister, or developing your love sexually as bf/gf. I always encourage people to express their love and increase their love in their life, but that is a different thing from expressing your sexual feelings and feelings of attraction. Love you can give to anyone, but choosing a partner to explore your attraction and sexuality with is a different matter, and a choosing a step brother for that is not a good idea simply becuase there are lots of emotional difficulties and risks. How long does the average relationship last at 14? What happens if you start developing strong feelings for eachother and pursue a relationship, and then a year or two later the relationship has run its course but you still have to see each other all the time? It makes things more challanging. At the end of the day, its your life and you should decide how to best live it, but I would say if he isn't the love of your life and you are just fooling around, its probably not worth it. Good luck.
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reader, rcn +, writes (23 December 2010):
 It's not like you are biological brother and sister. If you like him, I don't see an issue other than how your dad and step mom might see. He's staying over there, and you are making out in your room, where you said it yourself, "were about to get farther" can happen in your room. I thought you said "thats disgusting for someone my age to do" How much further from making out did you mean that you two were going to do? Do you see the point here. When I was young, I made out. Nothing like kids do now, just kissing (yes that is the truth). My mom had a rule. I could have a girl to my room, but the door must remain wide open. So, from a parental perspective, there may be a problem or there may need to be strict guidelines regarding sleeping arrangements when he is staying at your house.
As far as dating. Technically I don't see an issue because you're not biological. The issues I see are listed above. If you aren't ready for sex, he's staying at your house and your dad and his mom are out, do you think he'll wait before he tries having sex with you. If he were to, and you're not ready, what then? If he continued to persist, your relationship as step-siblings can become permanently damaged. Are you ready for that level of stress and drama. I don't think if you were to date, and your relationship didn't work out, your dad should end his marriage as well, but the tension in the home can almost imitate that.
I know I go back and forth from it being okay to reasons it is not, that's because your situation would have many pro's and cons. I just wanted to share some angles with you to begin thinking about.
Take care.
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reader, Negotiator +, writes (23 December 2010):
This is actually a very complicated issue. Making out " feels good" but unfortunately it leads to intercourse- something that you're a few years away from being ready for. Tell your Dad and stepmother as well.
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reader, mutual_oasis +, writes (23 December 2010):
hmm, that's hard to get around. you like the guy, but it is completely right to refuse to have sex with him.as for kissing, do you know why he wants to so much?is it because he thinks you're hot?i know this sounds lame, but kissing shouldn't just be thrown around like that, just because he likes you.it feels awesome to get that kind of attention from him, but maybe he thinks that's the only way to tell you he likes you.have you asked him directly why he started kissing you?it's a really awkward subject, especially since you didn't stop him in the first place.but if you ask him he might get the idea that you know it's wrong and back off for your sake.then again, if you end up having a major romance with him, keep in mind that the more he kisses you and the more times he asks you, the more you'll be inclined to say yes.i know if i was in that situation the guy would be wearing my defense down until finally i just did what he asked and that's saying something because my defense is ROCKHARD lol.if he wants to kiss you, chances are he wants to spend time with you too.how much do you just talk to each other?you could strike a conversation about skateboarding or something and steer his mind away from kissing you and more towards how great you are to talk to.i mean kissing can't be the only thing you can do with him even if he is drop dead gorgeous. =)) when you are around him you can try to be a friend who's interested in his thoughts, and maybe ask him questions and get him telling you what he thinks, even about stupid pointless stuff.after a while of doing that he'll most likely feel closer to you as a person he can talk to, and he'll start telling you more personal things to see if he can trust you with that.if you're patient with it he might figure out that making out wasn't the best thing in the world he could've done.he's just trying to tell you something, you just gotta listen hard enough.
(sorry i'm freakin wordy by nature =S )
please reply and tell me if any of that helped.i'll be checking back :) p.s i do not judge you i relate totally!
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