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I made some bad decisions and now I'm confused about monogamy!

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Question - (20 January 2013) 0 Answers - (Newest, )
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I met an older man (39) online last year and when we finally met, we had amazing chemistry. We quickly fell in love and married after only 3 weeks. Everything seemed great and we experimented with many sexual fantasies. We are both bisexual and invited men and women to join us frequently. He allowed me to have a stable boyfriend (a great guy who I was seriously involved with before meeting him) and he allowed me to express my feelings for my boyfriend freely.

After a few months; things just weren't the same! He asked things of me that I was not comfortable with and I saw his true colors (control freak, manipulator, pedophile, etc..) suddenly he said he wanted a break and he blackmailed me to sign divorce papers. He set me up to be arrested for domestic violence and the consequences of my arrest have been terrible!! He placed a restraining order on me but came back around.... He had become violent and abusive. We tried fixing things several times until I finally got sick of it all.

I have since been trying to mend my relationship with my long term boyfriend. He is reluctant because of the lifestyle I've had and because of many mistakes. I feel like a crazy person... I'm very attached to him, we talk daily and he is a beautiful person inside and out. I can't help feeling that I'm a sicko. The guilt is eating me up. I guess I came here to vent and listen to what you have to say. I enjoyed multiple partners and the party life but now I wish I would've never left my long term boyfriend. Confused about monogamy.

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