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writes: Is it possible for a so called close friend to sabotage the things you choose to do? I have known a this friend for several years, when we first met, I was going through a downtime and at the time she was a very good distraction as we would just go out and have fun. Things for her weren’t going to well so I guess going out and having fun was good for both of us. Several years on and I am out of that rut in my life and started meeting new people/men. Our choices in life are different, type of men, career, lifestyle etc. It’s taken me a while to realise this but I have always something was not quite right, but I tell her everything about how I feel and where I want to go. I am beginning to feel that she is using this to her advantage to control the outcome of my choice, for example if I get close to a guy, she goes out her way to get close to him and tells him things about me in a negative light (which I recently found out from someone I got to know a year ago). What also makes me question this is that when she found out her ex was dating someone else, she wanted to sabotage the relationship between her ex and his new girlfriend, it just made me think is this how she operates. When I question her she turns it on me and says I am insane to think such a thing, but it’s her word against everyone else’s, but my gut believes everyone else. Has anyone else experienced this behaviour with an old friend, or how does anyone perceive the situation to be?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (20 January 2013):
 You both sound a little drama-infused......
YOU need to decide it that's the kind of "friend" who you want to hang around with.....
Good luck...
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