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writes:I am 17 and there is this older guy who i sometimes talk to as a friend, he must be in his late 30s/early 40s. I do admit that i have had a crush on him in the past and he knows that. Yesterday I was talking to him and as I was about to go he kissed me on the cheek, as he usually does. He asked me what I was doing at new year and i told him i am meant to be going to a party but i cant because a guy who i made out with at my work party is gonna be at the party. We laughed about it and then he told me to take his hand, i thought he was just going to kiss me on the cheek again. which he did but he then kissed me on the lips, and before i knew it we were french kissing!! sounds gross i know, but i have always been attracted to older men. Afterwards he asked me if it was alright and I just nodded because I didn't know what to think. What should I do now? I cant stop thinking about it
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reader, N91 +, writes (28 December 2011):
 Ahh man, sage old guy made me laugh my ass off
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2011): Is he single? If he's a married man and he's kissing you that's awful. If not, he's still a bit old, i would wait a year (As you are young!) and see if you still find him attractive, if so may you have many good times...
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reader, PerhapsNot  +, writes (27 December 2011):
 No offense, but this man sounds like a total creep. The age gap between you two is too great at the moment. Someone his age knows better than to kiss a 17 year old, who he knows has a crush on him. How does he kiss you on the cheek "as usual" but you don't know his age? How did you meet him and how long have you known him? Your story signals major red flags to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2011): Go for it. I am 25 and i love men 45-55 ish. It is nobodys business but yours. I would wait until you are 18 though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2011): He is way too old for you- and he's trying to take advantage of you. You're barely above the legal age for consent, you should find someone a lot closer to your age.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (27 December 2011):
 What's "gross" about French kissing such a guy?????
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2011): You're thinking about it, but how do you feel about it? I think it was rather impolite of him to kiss you like that, to be honest. You hadn't exactly given any indication of wanting him to do so. And since you're 17... I don't know, there's nothing wrong with liking older men but I wouldn't be comfortable with such an age difference until I was at least 18. I know you're nearly there, but still. It *does* make a difference.
He knows you've had a bit of a crush on him, and I think he's kinda taking advantage of that. How do you know him, by the way? In your position, I'd put a bit of space between you for the time being. Do you want something more to come of this kiss? If you were considering starting a proper relationship with him (and if *his* intentions were genuine), I wouldn't do anything about it until you'd reached legal adulthood. Not to mention, I think you need some time to sort through your own thoughts and feelings about the whole thing. Just concentrate on yourself - and seeing in the New Year - for now and see how things pan out. Good luck and take care x
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