| A
female
,
*ubyrae
writes: I have realy upset a male friend of mine. I said something which got him into trouble. I didn't mean to and I would never intentionally get him into to trouble. I was honest with him and told him what I had done, but he is really upset with me. I've said sorry and tried to sort out the trouble. But I don't know if he'll forgive me. I don't know what to do or say to make him believe that I made a big mistake. Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2005):
You didn't mean to say it or you didnt mean to get him into trouble by saying it?
Some people like to go around revealing factually accurate information ("well you did say you were attracted to your wife's sister!") and then hiding behind the fact that the statement is true.
If you violated a confidence or were jabbering in the first place then I think he might be right to have a grudge. If it was an unpreventable accident where you blabbed he'll probably get over it.
A
reader, pops +, writes (10 December 2005):
You have done everything you can do. Leave it be. After he has had some time to deal with the problems you caused, he may come around to respect you for being honest, and for coming to him as soon as possible and apologizing. If not, he is a jerk, and not worthy of your friendship. Everyone makes mistakes, and friends forgive friends who make mistakes. But, don't expect him to forget you made that mistake, You will have to re earn his trust many times over before he is able to trust you with something or some kind of knowledge again.
...............................
|
