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writes:Thank you for reading...I have been with my girlfriend for about 2 years and we are very happy together. We have always been good but she left me last week and i can't see what to do from here.I was at a party a few weeks ago and there were a bunch of people taking photos and there was a girl there that liked me. I didn't like her in that way. People were hugging and being silly for the camera and this girl leaned in to kiss me for the camera. I went in for the photo and kissed her on the lips. nothing more.I told the girl i wasn't interested as she tried to chase me for a while and last week i got a call from my girlfriend crying at 3am saying this girl had found her on facebook and sent her the photo. She also said we slept together.I said none of it was true , as it wasn't but she doesn't believe me, She said kissing is still cheating and that was it.I know i was wrong but it was literally for the camera, there was nothing behind it. The thing that's worse is, at the very start of our relationship, my girlfriend messed up and slept with someone else. It was hard but i forgave her and we moved on. That was a long time ago.I know 2 wrongs don't make a right but i forgave her for something much worse. Even her family like me and say the same thing.I know it sounds silly but apart from this bump in the road, we are really happy together, she even said we were so so happy.We also have a holiday booked that we have been looking forward to.I went over to see her last night with some flowers and said let's draw a line in the sand and both move forward. She said she was confused and she didn't know what she wants. She has recently made a new group of friends she is out with all the time and she said they are telling her to leave me. Obviously they don't know what happened before...She said give her some time. I asked her to forgive me like i did with her but she wouldn't listen.I went back in her house to get my bag and her family said she will never meet anyone as good as me. I left her a letter i wrote her under her pillow and later that night she updated her facebook status to an unhappy face.I got a call from her early this morning and she was upset as she had overslept and was going to be late for work. I got in my car and picked her up and she said maybe we could do something on Saturday. She then got out of the car and i'm not at work and sad as hell.I just don't understand how things could go so wrong so quickly. I think her meeting these new friends have something to do with it and her now going out all the time, maybe she thinks the grass is greener. Was i right to take her to work? I just don't know what to do as it hurts so much :(What shall i do from here? thanks for reading
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (19 June 2013):
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http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-gf-left-me-over-a-silly-mistake.html
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (19 June 2013):
 I think your Gf is being a wimp for love- She is keeping you in the doghouse for a little while, and wants to show herself stern and unpliable ,and let you sweat ot a little more,... but the simple fact the she calls YOU- her EX for now- first thing when she has a problem, and says she wants hang out on saturday, IMO shows that she is saying something ( you are a cheater and I can't forgive you ) and doing the exact opposite.
My personal opinion, FWIW, is that your gf is being a fool. Your version of the facts is not terribly believable, and I would have a hard, hard time believing it.
How in the world a semi drunk stranger that you just kissed onec for the camera, is going to know your gf's full name and trace her on facebook ? Why would she bother sending her the pics of that kiss ? If she KNOWS that you don't like her that way and would not touch her with a ten feet pole, so to speak, what benefit would she get from breaking you two up ? And, why ever should she say you slept together when it's not true, unless she is mentally unbalanced.
So, what I would do is keep your cool, give your gf the space she needs, and keeps your fingers crossed in the meantime, hoping she does not make two plus two four, and does not start digging a bit more under the surface of " it was all a silly misunderstanding ".
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