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30-35,
*ianca1
writes:Hello everyone,my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years,and due to college we are doing long distance. For the past few months,his best friend keeps telling me that i should find a guy and maybe kiss since i havent seen my boyfriend in a long time,i repeatdly said i cant do it,however he really keeps bringing the subject.He is saying that he is just looking out for me,he doesnt want me to be hurt and that my boyfriend is a guy and guys cheat. At some point it made me seriously wonder if maybe he knew that my boyfriend was doing something and it was his way of telling me.Two weeks ago he told me that he wants to send me his sex tape,i told him i didnt want to see it,he always mentions how uptight i am.Then one day he sent me a picture of his private parts and in return i sent him a picture of my booty.It was the stupidest mistake i have ever made,i felt really horrible after that,i called my boyfriend to tell him what i have done so i started and said his friend sent me a picture and i said what it was and before i could finish he was furious he kept going on and on about how that was his bestfriend betrayed him he was so hurt i couldnt even get myself to tell him that i also sent his friend a picture of my booty.Now i dont know what to do,because he is going to ask his best friend about the picture and then the guy will probably tell him that i sent him a picture as well and then i dont know what to do.Please dont judge me i am aware of what i did, I am ashamed of myself,and i am not normally that type of person,so please just give me some words of wisdom.Thank you kindly
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2012): Nothing you can do but wait really. Your boyfriend has been betrayed by both you and this other guy.
Want some wise words Bianca? Your mistake wasn't sending that picture it was letting this guy speak to you this way and make so many blatant moves on you without telling him to piss off at the first sign and you should have told your boyfriend the first time this guy started trying to get into your knickers.
How can your boyfriend ever trust you again after you let this guy slime all over you and tell you you should kiss others and stuff like that?
The truth is if you're the kind of girl that can't be strong with those guys and can't tell them never to get the wrong idea or talk to you like that again, then he can't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2012): Unfortunately at this point there is not much you can do, other than being honest with your boyfriend before he speaks to his so called best friend. This friend of his was trying to break you and your boyfriend up, and unfortunately you have given him some very good ammunition to achieve that goal. I am in a long distance relationship, and many people have tried to tell me that guys cheat (some do and some don't), they have also said find someone local and tried to convince me of all the reasons to do so. I will tell you it is tempting, but if you want to keep this relationship the only thing you can do is be honest, apologise. yes your boyfriend will be hurt and he may break up with you, but I can tell you that him knowing you kept from him, or lied by omission is going to hurt him a lot more, and for myself if I was in his position I may be inclined to forgive you if you were honest and sincerely apologetic (which you seem to be from your post), but not telling me what you did would be a deal-breaker and be the end of the relationship. So if you can tell him before this guy does and DO NOT ever send any pics of any part of your private self to anyone again. Good Luck sweetie I hope it works out for you.
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