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*upcake3
writes:So me and this guy whos much older than me work together. Over a year weve been talking and getting to know each other. I really like him and he seems like he likes me but whenever i ask him he says he wants to be friends. However we exchange pictures all the time and talk about having sex which makes me think he likes me but ive yet to do anything bc im nervous i will just be heart broken. Honestly hes a lot older but still i have real feelings for him and hes such a nice guy. weve talked about anything and everything, i feel extremely comfortable with him so i think its right. but he doesnt like me, or so he says... any opinions on what hes thinking and what i should do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2010): You have to realize there is danger for him. Some states would say that sex between you was statutory rape. There are reasons for such rules of course: including predation of younger girls by older men. I am not saying that is what is happening here, but if it was me (I am an older guy), I would be afraid of the consequences. If my guess is wrong then I agree with everyone else here. The guy is mature enough to say what he means. I think you will have to believe him. You say you trust him, so you will have to trust him on this as well.
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reader, cupcake3 +, writes (10 December 2010):
cupcake3 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionto anonymous,
hahah the thing is he went to school with my sister and if i introduce him to my family they would 100% say no to any of that :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2010): Most of the time guys are simple. They say what they mean. Its hard for us females to really grasp that because we are big on hintig and sometimes we want more that one thing at the same time. For now at least just be friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2010): Without knowing the man it is hard to say, but I think if he wants to be friends that sounds like a good sign because he is not trying for sex. Try to sort out what he has actually said and what might be wishful thinking on your part. It is easy to imagine someone wants more from us when we want more from them.
You are very young; would it be safer to introduce him to your family and friends?
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