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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I am currently in my third year of university... and in my first year I had some friends and one really close friend (lets call her X)I started going out with a guy and after a while he figured out that he liked one of my other friends (who I will call B) more than me. During this time, X and B had become pretty close and I was okay with this ( I didn't want to become a clingy person and start demanding more attention from X since I thought we were close friends. I understood that she wanted to make friends as well ).So after a while I figured out that B and my bf were effectively going out and that X knew about it, and said nothing. And obviously as things turned out, I ended up feeling that everyone had chosen B over me. I dumped my bf, and as for X, I asked her why she didnt tell me what was going on and the answer I got was that she didnt think she was under any obligations to tell me anything, becuase she became more friendly with B and obviously preferred her as a friend.I didnt bother asking B why she would do something like that to me since I had never expected her to be straight with me anyway.But I did not feel good about the situation and since then I have felt that I cannot really be good friends with either of them anymore. So I really need to make new friends, but due to the fact that I have felt really bad about the situation I just described, I can't help feeling that maybe peope don't really like me or are just pretending to like me. I don't want to feel close to people and have them not feel the same way about me. I just can't help noticing that B and X's relationship has gotten better and they are even closer now, and this just makes me feel worse. It would help if I could get rid of the feeling , but I don't know how to. And it's taken me a while to accept that what I'm acutally feeling is jealousy and I'm not used to it. I'm also not fond of feeling like second hand goods or that i'm not as good a friend as B because she's funnier or for whatever reason people like her so much.
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reader, just dance  +, writes (9 December 2010):
Hi hun =)
Listen i really no how u feel...
Do u know whats the difference between u n X?
First X is a cheater who cheated on her best friend...u wont do that... N that makes u special....
These days finding a true friend is like finding a diamond...
B has no chance to match u....u have a bigger heart, ur a better person.
U shouldnt be sad about ur bf cz today he cheated on u... Tomorrow it will be someone else! Hes a jerk thats for sure...
X....X my dear...is a selfish person...
There is no guarantee that shell love B ever!
When B will be in a bad situation where X is also involved...What do u think?! X will help her?! Instead shell leave her n go away...n carry on...
And as for B....shes only having fun for some time...with X
Cz they can never help each oder!
So they all are stupid to leave u...remember....they dont have one thing that u have my dear...
A big heart with lots n lots of love.
Take care =) n move on...
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